Whitney Houston asked a great question: “How do I know if he really loves me?” This one is pretty easy.
He’s there even when you’re gross
It doesn’t matter if you just woke up and you have Godzilla breath or if your hair looks like two spiders got into a fight. He’s there and he wants you. He could choose not be around for that behind-the-scenes realness but he’s there, and that means he really cares.
You have inside jokes
Remember that time when … ? Yeah, no one else in the world knows about that because that’s just between us. You and he may burst out laughing, and people will look at you like you’re weird, but he won’t care.
Spontaneous or public displays of affection
Why did he kiss you while you guys were on line in the supermarket? Because he had to. He can’t get enough of you and he doesn’t care if other people think it’s strange or inappropriate.
He talks to his friends about you
It’s a great sign when you meet his friends for the first time, but they seem like they already know and like you. It means he brags about you, and you’re on his mind even if he’s out with the guys.
He wants to understand your interests
When we really care, we want to know what makes you tick. Why do you feel this way? Why is this topic so interesting to you? What are your ambitions? Because you are a rich, complex, fascinating, mysterious, lovely, caring miracle, and we can’t ever get enough of you.
He’ll reach out spontaneously
“Hey, you up?” at 1:00 a.m. might be another story, but if he calls, texts or instant messages you out of the blue for no particular reason, that’s different. It means you exist in his mind even when you aren’t physically with him. Psychologists call that “object permanence,” and it’s what separates the toddlers from the children —or in this case, the casual dude from the caring man.
He puts you first
If you didn’t know, the term ‘bae’ means, “Before Anyone Else.” Calling you ‘bae’ is nice, but treating you like you are his bae—your needs before his or anyone else’s (within reason) —is what matters.
He starts making plans
As infatuation begins to fade and the real mechanics of a relationship begin to form, investing in the future becomes very real. If he’s steadily working on the plans he’s previously made for you two and looking forward to the future, it means he believes there will be one. It’s a great sign.
He expresses his deeper self
Has he stopped being mysterious? That might mean he’s just not revealing his deeper self. We’re all mysteries to one another. If he goes deep, that means he trusts you – a vital ingredient for love.
He likes putting you in the spotlight
He wants other people to know how lucky he is. He wants them to see what he sees in you, because he is proud, even honored, to have you in his life.
Which ones does your man do?
