It is usually difficult to make the decision that it’s time to move on. Transitions involve massive changes, and most people fear change. However, once you know that you’ve outgrown your present situation (a job, a relationship, etc.), the discomfort can become overwhelming. If you decide to stay where you feel you don’t belong, the situation will only get worse.
Here are the signs that it’s time to take actions to let go.
You simply don’t care as much as you used to
Whether you feel that your job doesn’t challenge you any more–or you are disappointed with your current lover, friend, or both…you are not as invested as you used to be. You might find yourself daydreaming during work hours, taking an extra 5 minutes for lunch, or avoiding your boss. In your relationship, you probably don’t tell your partner how you feel about something because it just feels like more effort than it’s worth.
Something or someone else really peaks your interest
Every time your friend talks about her amazing employer, you feel a pang of jealousy. Out of curiosity, you’ve been looking online at jobs available in your area. It’s time for something new and you know it.
You are not giving your 100 percent
You like giving yourself fully to whatever or whoever you’re with. And you’re giving half of what you could give. It’s not fair to you or the other people involved (boss, co-workers, significant others, etc.) to stay when you are not fully committed.
You are asked to do things that compromise your integrity
You have a strong moral fiber and this is too much. No one has the right to ask you to do something that goes against what you value. If there’s even a slight discomfort when someone asks you to do something, trust your gut.
Others notice your ambivalence
You are not fooling anyone anymore. Your boss and the team know something is wrong. (If it’s a personal relationship, that person can feel you pulling away). They might not say anything right away, but it’s obvious, and only a matter of time before you or they bring it up.
The points in this article are the insights of our womenworking.com writers.
