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Getting close to other people is a complex process. We want to experience close relationships, but when we let others know our innermost thoughts, we become vulnerable to them as well. While this can be exhilarating, it also opens us up to being hurt by their intended or unintended slights.
What's helped me in working through this dilemma is to remember that when another person says or does something that triggers me to feel less than my powerful self, the offending comment says more about the other person's state of mind than it says about me. At a later time, when things cool down, I can share how the offending action made me feel in a more appropriate manner.
The concept of detachment is important. Not taking everything personally is easier said than done, but it really is the way to go. During the holiday weekend, if someone close to you seems "off," detach and practice compassion. Doing this not only serves them, but also results in a calmer you.