Relationships are tricky. In a successful relationship, one person isn’t doing all of the giving while the other is just receiving. The ideal is a mutual sharing. At times, relationships sway more toward one side than the other, especially if the other person is undergoing some type of crisis. However, after a short while, a balance can be reached again. But if you have felt for some time that it’s mostly “give” and little “get,” speak up and see if an equilibrium can be achieved. If not, it might be time to move on. Heed these signs that change is in order:
You feel on “empty” too much of the time
You are spent, and there’s very little recharge in the relationship. Your time together has become somewhat of a burden.
You don’t look forward to being with him
You used to get excited and feel renewed when you spent time with him, but now it’s just the opposite. When you’re around him, you feel drained and are eager for some alone time. You seem to be doing things around his schedule, not yours. It seems that his agenda is more important than yours. And every time you try to discuss your concerns, he changes the subject.
You can’t get him to sit down and negotiate
He always has some excuse—business, previous engagements and etc. There aren’t any “soul-to-soul” talks anymore.
You fantasize more than usual about other men
You’ve always appreciated a good-looking man, but now your eye is wandering more than usual. It’s time to get honest with yourself (and him); you are not getting what you need in the relationship anymore.
