How Can Our Stressful Feelings Benefit Us?
Submitted by Career Coach on Tue, 06/08/2010 - 17:22
Women so often "take the rap" in organizations--mostly by men--for being too emotional. How can we see our natural ability to experience our feelings as one of our best features? How can we use our emotions, especially the stressful ones, as an advantage--especially at work?
The key is to realize that our stressful feelings arise when our needs are going unmet. Examples of stressful feelings include: fear, anger, frustration, guilt and shame. By noticing what we are feeling we can ask ourselves what need might be going unmet? Then when you have identified the most pressing need, ask yourself, "What strategies can I use to satisfy this need?
Warm Regards,
Andrea Zintz, Ph.D.Strategic Leadership Resources
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RE: Stressful feelings as helpful?
I really love that you posted this! As someone who is defined as "emotional", "wearing her heart on her sleeve", "easily stressed", etc., I am always trying hard to keep a good balance between listening to my emotions and talking to my emotions. I think your advice is great at getting the message across that people, perhaps particularly women, need to know what they need and work hard for it. In order to do this, you need to be tuned in to yourself.
Thank you!
good advice
Awareness is the key to being pro-active. What do I need in my career and my life that I want and may not be getting. Once I know that I can start taking small actions to get that, or something better.
Fondly, Helene