People change. Relationships change. But what keeps the right relationship thriving? Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, there are certain principles that two people must honor.
Respect (it’s an inside job)
Whether you agree with me or not, your point of view is just as valid as mine. And when one person forgets this, the relationship can be in trouble. If you don’t respect yourself, you will probably find it difficult to respect the people you are close to.
Time for yourself
To recharge, to regroup, and to reflect on what’s important. A relationship that is smothering and all-encompassing can put out the “flame” quicker than anything else.
Common courtesy
You treat me right, and I will treat you better. You treat me “wrong,” over and over again, I will look for a way out. We all know the “Golden Rule.” Well, it isn’t golden for nothing!
Being heard
There should be space in the relationship to communicate how you really feel. If one person is doing “all” the talking, there needs to be a way to bring the other person out. Sometimes the truth is scary, but the alternative is distancing yourself, and that can be the first step to killing the relationship,
Physical affection
We all need a hug, a pat on the back or a soft touch (just at the right time). Touch can speak louder than words. Don’t you agree?
Devotion
It’s easy to take the way of “no return” and escape when things become difficult. But if you truly care about the other person, easy doesn’t mean better. You are loyal in the good times and the bad times, and are committed to going the distance with each other.
Room to grow
We are constantly changing, hopefully, for the better. And our growth usually forces the people we are close to, to develop as well. So although the apple cart can get thrown off as one person changes, if you are in for the long haul, you will struggle with the discomfort of change (for better or worse).
