Examine Mind Talk
In taking risks, you must become aware of the defeatist thoughts that deter you from taking action. Replace the mind talk that keeps you stuck with positive thought:
- The people in my life want me to succeed and will support me to try something new.
- I have a wealth of experiences to bring to any new situation.
- I have clarity about what I want and I’m going to achieve it. I can reach out for support along the way.
- There is no such thing as failure if I learn from each experience. Why not attempt something new?
Risk-Taking Mentors
August 2010
Many women who advance at work have the ability to take calculated risks. Reaching out to risk-taking mentors can help you gain information and get honest feedback. Here are some tips to bring the right people on board.
Make a prospect list
Think of people you’ve known at your current job, past assignments, within your community and professional associations. What does each one have to offer and how do they complement your skills?
Rank your prospects
Think about your goal or the risk that you are about to take. Which prospects can help you the most? Use that as the criterion for ranking them. Four people should be on your list.
Plan your approach
It is important that you come from your power center when you do. Brainstorm best-case scenarios with a friend or colleague, and approach the person on the top of your list.
The Approach
Introduce yourself—tell her who you are and try to establish a common bond. Acknowledge her by praising one of her accomplishments.
Enlist support
Communicate powerfully and stay focused. Convey what you are doing and ask for what you need. Get a commitment from them for a period of time.
Create value
Building a mutually beneficial relationship is important. No matter how senior your mentor is, you have something to offer them, too. Let them know how you will help them.
By Helene Lerner