Do you remember the first kid to have ever told you the legend of Bigfoot? Well, it’s that same Lying Larry who is now responsible for spreading total myths about intercourse across the land.
As the self-appointed Terry Truthwoman, I am here to present you with the bona fide facts about sex (and to destroy Lying Larry once and for all).
The clitoris is small and has one location
According to Dr. Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D., LMFT, certified sex therapist and author of The Married Sex Solution: A Realistic Guide to Saving Your Sex Life, the part of the body that we typically refer to as the “clitoris” is but one small, exposed portion of a much larger underlying wishbone-shaped area that runs down either side of the vagina underneath the labia and is responsible for feelings of sexual pleasure.
Your “fertility window” starts right after you ovulate
Your fertile window depends on the length of your menstrual cycle, which varies from woman to woman. However, pregnancy is generally most likely to occur if you have sex during the five days before ovulation or on the day of ovulation.
Although it is possible for a woman to get pregnant at any time of her menstrual cycle, it is incredibly unlikely to happen during any period besides that fertility window. This is because eggs can only be fertilized for around 24 hours after being released from the ovaries.
Emergency contraceptive pills cause birth defects and/or affect future pregnancies
According to the Office of Population Research at Princeton University, emergency contraceptive pills (otherwise known as “morning after” pills) do not cause birth defects.
Progestin-only pills (such as Plan B, My Way, and Next Choice) have the same hormones as most daily birth control pills, which many studies have confirmed to not cause birth defects nor affect future pregnancies.
For this reason, the Food and Drug Administration removed warnings that oral contraceptives can cause harm to a developing fetus.
If you don’t show symptoms, you are STD-free
Unfortunately, some sexually transmitted diseases can present without symptoms—which is why getting tested is so important! STDs such as trichomoniasis, herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and human papillomavirus (HPV) can infect you completely silently, but can also potentially lead to more serious health issues if left untreated.
Your genitalia is your only sexual organ
There is no denying the fact that the P & V are sexual organs, but did you know that there are a whole host of other areas of the body, called “erogenous zones,” that can successfully arouse you? Some common places are the breasts, the anus, neck, lips, tongue, earlobes, and inner thighs.
All sexual acts can lead to pregnancy
Although there are a number of sexual activities that can potentially cause pregnancy, there is only one scenario in which that actually comes to fruition: if sperm enters your vagina and fertilizes one of your eggs. This means that you can get pregnant if semen enters your body in any way (from your partner’s or your own fingers, sex toys, or his penis).
However, if semen enters any part of your body besides your vagina, you will not get pregnant. Swallowing ejaculatory fluid will not facilitate fertilization.
Using two condoms means double the protection
Too much of a good thing, ladies, can, in fact, be a bad thing. You might think that using two condoms makes you “extra protected” from fertilization, but it actually increases your risk of pregnancy. This is because the two sets of rubbers create friction against each other and weaken the material that makes them up, thus making semen more likely to pass through.
You cannot get pregnant from pre-ejaculatory fluid
The vast majority of pre-cum has dead sperm or no sperm at all in it. However, it is possible (though extremely unlikely) that enough living sperm enters this fluid to impregnate you. There have in fact been women who have achieved pregnancy in this way.