How To Handle People Who Apologize But Don’t Change
It’s infuriating to engage with people who promise one thing and deliver another. You can’t trust them. Even if you confront them, they look at you like you’re the crazy one. So how do you get through to them? Here are some ways that may prove effective.
1. There’s more than meets the eye. What is their agenda. Take the time to study what motivates them and what they really want from you. This information will prove invaluable in the long run.
2. Why are they still around? How can you get what you want from them? Clarify what they give you—there must be something because they are still part of your life.
3. Acceptance is the key. Can you accept them for who they are? Confronting them doesn’t work. Even if they lie or distort the truth, detach. You know what’s up, you don’t need them to validate what you know.
4. Resolve that the relationship is limited. Don’t try to get anything more than what you absolutely need. And if you find that you’ve outgrown them, by all means, move on.