Things To Remember When You’re Not Where You Want To Be
Do you find yourself asking, “are we there yet?” while you are transitioning to a bigger and better you? Then check out the basics and not so basics on what to expect when going through a period of change.
The Basics:
1. Own your journey.
Tackle it all head on. It’s usually during periods of chaos in your life that you have some of the best learning experiences. So shift your perspective and appreciate where you are right now.
2. Use your resources.
It’s normal to have days when you’re overcome with feelings of doubt and insecurity. Use your network of good friends who you can count on and talk to no matter what.
3. Take time for yourself.
Just because you’re not where you hope to be doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to pamper yourself. Working on improving your life is a full-time job. So give yourself some well-deserved R&R every once in a while. And don’t feel guilty about it!
4. Make a plan and take it one step at a time.
When you look at where you are now, where you want to be and all the things you need to do to get there, it can be overwhelming. Take a sheet of paper or a poster board and create a vision board with what you hope to achieve. Then map out the first step and go from there. Visualization is an amazing tool that has been proven to help get you motivated. And when you achieve a goal that’s en route to getting you what you want, it can be affirming.
The Not-So Basics:
1. It can feel lonely, and that’s OK.
Loneliness forces self-awareness. So embrace the isolation and open yourself up to understanding who you are, what you want and realize you have what it takes to achieve it.
2. Negative thoughts will sometimes prevail.
You’ll have days when you think you’re not good enough or you’re not doing enough and you’ll be tempted to choose an easier route. Instead of indulging the pity-party, turn this negativity around, and use it in a positive way to help you get there.
3. Embrace change.
Let’s first congratulate you on making it this far. In order to evolve you have to lean into uncertainty, which is scary and not everyone does it. But this is why self-awareness is so important. The sooner you understand that you’re strong and capable, the sooner you can get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
4. Trust yourself.
If you fall, you will get back up. So trust yourself, trust the process, and you will find yourself eventually in a good place.
– Bre Glynn