Find out the mistakes you might be making that prevent you from finding true love.
- Making it too easy
In every relationship whether heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual, both parties have masculine and feminine energy. A man in his masculine wants to feel that there is a place for him to contribute and do things. If you want a man to take the lead in relationship, then do less so he has to step up and do more. This way he is in the lead and you will never have to question his intentions with you. You will know by his actions toward you. Instead of making it easy for him by doing too much, relax back into your feminine and allow yourself to receive.
- Twisting into a pretzel to get love
When we have the spark of attraction with someone, we start to jockey our behavior in an attempt to be pleasing to the other person. We think, “How can I present myself?” or “how can I behave to get this person to love me?” If you don’t show up authentically from the beginning, then it’s impossible to receive the real love and acceptance that you desire. All of us want to be loved for who we really are, and showing up as your authentic self is the key.
- Pretending we don’t have any needs
At the start of a relationship we see a lot of women wanting to appear low-maintenance. This is a huge disservice to yourself because your partner doesn’t know how to please you. By speaking your needs they will learn how to make you happy. Love and attraction does not come with mind-reading capabilities. By speaking your needs you can see if this person steps up to deliver on your request. This way you can quickly identify who is a match for you, and who is not.
- Avoiding conflict
We are told sayings like, “Pick your battles.” This perpetuates the idea of being in a war with your partner. Conflict is a doorway to deeper connection. By avoiding conflict we are not honoring ourselves by speaking how we feel. Our soul desires connection, but our ego desires to be right. Be willing to have the uncomfortable conversations. When you speak your truth, you open the doorway to real intimacy with your partner.