Everything seems to be going well: you and your partner rarely fight, you see each other reasonably often, and are generally pretty happy. But are you seeing the subtle signs of a relationship breakdown? Check in to catch these small problems early and make changes before your relationship is in jeopardy.
Can you remember the last time you made eye contact?
When you really stop to think about this, it might be hard to remember the last time you looked your partner in the eye during a conversation. Additionally, how often do you find yourself on or even simply holding an electronic device while talking to each other? Make it a point to put distractions aside and engage in focused conversation.
Can you remember the last time you said something nice to your partner?
Whether a compliment, an I love you, or acknowledging something helpful they did, make it a point to not only have meaningful conversations but to infuse them with positive statements about each other.
Something big happens. Did you share it with them?
Can you remember if they were one of the top three people you thought to share with? If not, this is a sign that you aren’t a priority in each other’s lives. Make it a point to share your greatest successes and your biggest failures with each other.
Can you remember the last time you spent time together just the two of you?
If you have to pause to think about when you had time together alone, it’s time to start making your relationship a priority and carving out time to be together. It can be a regular date night, or even a moment together before you start your day. No matter how busy you are, make sure to find some time to be just the two of you again.