Remember when you were growing up and your mom wouldn’t let you hang out with the “mean girls,” because she said that you become who you associate yourself with? Well, – as usual – she was right. The people you choose to spend time with become an extension of you, so it’s crucial to choose wisely. When it comes to picking your friends, avoid the 4 C’s of toxic people like the plague.
Complainers pollute the air around them with negativity and try to bring people into their sad, angry atmosphere. There’s nothing more frustrating than being in a great mood only to then end up listening to your friend grumble about every little thing. You go from enjoying your day to suddenly seeing all of the little faults in it, and then you’re left looking at the glass half full. Surround yourself with positive people, and you’ll be much happier.
This type of person will take any and every opportunity to judge you, probably in a subtle way that gaslights you in the process. Maybe she’s the friend who “suggests” you change your outfit before you guys go out together, or maybe she’s a stranger in the beauty salon who points out that you could really use an updated haircut. Either way, she’s quietly criticizing you, and you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.
The competitor needs to always be the winner, no matter what. She’ll compete with you to have the most prestigious job and she’ll fight you more than is appropriate on even the smallest of arguments. This type of person is toxic because it creates unnecessary tension in your life – you shouldn’t be challenging your friends in casual discussions. Life isn’t a competition, but with her attitude she’s setting herself up to lose.
It can be tough to spot a clinger in the beginning – you probably met and hit it off, and you thought you’d found a great new friend. But then they start becoming needy and expect you to spend all of your time with them. The clinger latches on and can suck you into a vacuum of only seeing them, which is harmful for the rest of your relationships. Break free from them as soon as possible.