Has anyone ever told you that you push people away? Getting close to someone is scary, but are you letting your fear take over? Here are subtle ways you could be creating distance between you and your partner or potential love:
You take everything to heart
You may feel personally attacked by those around you and think every little detail or bad opinion is directed toward you. Remember, when someone says something bad to you or about you, it actually says more about them than you. Too much stress can arise from always worrying about what others think about you, so let go of their judgments and save yourself the unnecessary hurt.
You don’t look on the bright side
You always dwell on the the negative. So, whats next? Take a deep breath and recollect the things that made you happy, even if they were the tiniest of joys. Whether you’re just starting a relationship or have been with this person for a long time, show them how much you appreciate them. Ups and downs are a given between two people who want to be together,. If you really want to be with them, stop focusing on all of the negative things and start treasuring those special moments, no matter how small they may be.
Low self- esteem
One way to surely sabotage that special bond of yours is to show constant hopelessness in your relationship. Although you really want to be with this person and things are going great, you’re always living in doubt that the relationship is going to work out. Not all relationships are bound to be doomed. To put an end to this, come to terms of acceptance with love.
You depend on the other person for happiness
Don’t put all of your happiness in their hands. The first person your happiness should come from is you. Expecting all of your joy to come from others puts a lot of pressure on them. Once your other half sees that you enjoy life, they’ll feel more comfortable being with you and be attracted to your positivity.
You don’t know what you want
Being unsure about where things are headed will make confuse them – and probably you. Don’t rush into things half-heartedly. Take some time to secure whatever it is you want and don’t ever walk into something blindly, especially when it involves two hearts. The only way they’ll know what you want is if you know what you want. When you are sure about what you want it makes things much easier for the both of you.