Before investing yourself into a relationship, you want to make sure that you have a healthy mindset, and that you are capable of supporting yourself without this person. Growing dependent on a potential partner has its setbacks.
If circumstances unfold and the relationship no longer works, you don’t want to give up on your life goals. You must be aware of qualities and habits to develop before submitting yourself to another person, especially a soulmate.
Financial dependence
Whether your soulmate is successful in the business world or health field, you must never stop working to financially support yourself. Although treating yourself on occasion can be rewarding, don’t make it a habit and expect your soulmate to always pay for you. What happens if they lose their job? If you break up? Who will be the financial provider then?
Remaining employed keeps your mind on constant alert and open to new knowledge. It also is a reassurance that you can provide for yourself, without your soulmate’s help.
Self-esteem
It’s a wonderful aspect of a relationship — to have your soulmate compliment your accomplishments and appearance. However, expecting this attention and behavior every minute of every day is unrealistic, and a bit too much. Before involving yourself with a potential partner, you should personally know if you are emotionally ready. You should have confidence in yourself before you begin a relationship. Don’t jump into a relationship hoping to achieve that as a result. That’s unfair to yourself and your partner. Also, don’t consistently check your phone or social media, hoping to see compliments from your partner. If they truly care for you, they’ll make sure to show and tell you, not make it a point for everyone to witness.
Being his only female friend
Think of it this way: you’ve maintained friendships with male friends and wouldn’t trade them for anything. Their support, presence, and jokes are sometimes much needed compared to a female friend’s advice/presence.
You should expect the same with your soulmate. If they’ve maintained friendships with women for months or years, you can’t expect them to cut ties with people they have grown with.
Giving more effort than you
Both partners should give equal attention, support, and care for the other. One should not have to give more effort into the relationship. If both partners are genuinely determined to pursue a love interest, there will be no unequal amounts of effort.
Agreeing with you
It is safe to say that your soulmate will support and believe in your decisions that help you grow as an individual. However, this doesn’t mean that he will agree with every opinion you have. It is normal and expected to have differing opinions and beliefs on certain aspects of life. This doesn’t mean there will be constant conflict. If he is truly your soulmate, he will respect your opinions without having to agree with you.
Sources:
https://www.thetalko.com/15-things-you-should-never-expect-from-your-man/
https://www.bolde.com/15-things-never-expect-man/
https://www.mensxp.com/relationships/understanding-women/25483-10-things-women-should-not-expect-from-men.html
