Sarah Jessica Parker is opening up about using IVF and a surrogate to bring her twin daughters, Marion and Tabitha, into the world. After the birth of her son, James, Parker “tried and tried and tried”, but found it difficult to conceive again.
“I only got to give birth once. I would give birth as often as I could, if I could,” Parker told the Edit Magazine. “I didn’t want him to have to shoulder the burden of us later in life, by himself.”
“It just wasn’t meant to happen the conventional way,” she said. “You don’t know them as well as you do a child you’ve given birth to. But you do have an immediate love and affection for them and what is instinctual happens.”
Despite using a surrogate, the twins girls are biologically hers and her husband, Matthew Broderick’s.
“Meeting your children rather than giving birth to them, it’s as if, um, it’s suspended animation. The gestational experience is gone,” adding, “it’s so different, and equally extraordinary… But it’s amazing.”
When asked if having twin children were intentional, Parker admitted that it wasn’t.
“No we didn’t [know]. We understood that it was a possibility, but we didn’t spend a lot of time on the math and science of it. We were just hopeful that we would have one healthy child. It was a wonderful shock getting two; the cherry on the sundae… [but] going from one to three children is a much bigger adjustment than becoming a mother in the first place. One child in retrospect seems a cake walk compared to where I stand today.”