Are you a compulsive fatigue-hider? You’re exhausted but feel everyone depends on you and needs you to be “on.” Here are five signs to take better care of YOU.
In this techno-driven world it’s more common to overbook ourselves, particularly us womenfolk because we are often the go-to people. As people-pleasers, we say “yes” to so many and end up saying “no” to the most important person of all….ourselves. If you find yourself becoming increasingly forgetful it’s a sign that your plate is too full and you must concentrate on you. Combat forgetfulness with sticky note reminders and digital calendar reminders.
Many of my clients share a similar story. While building a career, wanting to show enthusiasm about a new project or trying to please your boss, it’s hard to say no. Yes, you have deadlines to meet and fires to put out but you’ll have a lot more fuel if you take some time for yourself. Start small. Look over your calendar and immediately schedule two hours for yourself. YES…two hours. A mani/ pedi or good massage will do nicely!
You’re chronically time-challenged
Possibly the complaint I hear most from working women is lack of time. Many of us are building or managing careers and families and despite great partners and reliable loving child care, fitting everything into a day can seem impossible. The most basic thing to remember is 24 hours are all we’ve got, so reframing the way we think of time is the only way to shift this scarcity about time to a workable reality. Accept the limitations of each day and schedule your tasks as you would organize a messy drawer; find a place for everything and discard what you don’t need.
You’ve always had a cheerful disposition but lately everything gets on your nerves. Well before a full burnout occurs, we can feel the signs that we need to examine our priorities. Human beings have this amazing built-in GPS called emotions. Pay attention to how you’re feeling and then ask yourself “What am I thinking?” If you just experience the thought as a thought you can break the spiral that can lead to misspeaking, arguing or, at worst, throwing a tantrum.
You feel apathetic
Once, you felt you could climb Mt. Everest and nothing could stop you. It’s hard to deal with disappointments and perceived failures: being overlooked for a promotion, working countless hours and feeling unrecognized, and just not feeling you’re where you’re supposed to be. It’s hard to stay focused and positive when you feel like nothing is going your way. It’s also part of being human. This is a good time to reach out to a trusted friend or colleague, coach or therapist. It’s common for strong women to wait until they’re in total despair to seek support. Don’t suffer alone. Get help. You’re worth it.
Lynne Goldberg, MCC
Lynne operates Lynne Goldberg Coaching and she is available for personal, career, executive and corporate coaching and consulting.
You can reach Lynne at firstname.lastname@example.org.