Have you ever had to deal with someone blatantly lying to you? Two-faced people can be extremely difficult to handle, and it’s frustrating that they never express their true opinions to your face. Instead, they tell other people how they really feel, and the backstabbing just makes the sting hurt more. If you have a two-faced liar on your hands, here’s how to handle them:
Know the signs of a two-faced person.
Two-faced people aren’t always so easy to point out, but there are a few helpful traits that unveil them for who they really are. They tend to smile in your face and then talk about you the minute you turn your back. They are usually known to be false, manipulative, and dishonest. You realize that this person cannot be trusted as a friend anymore, and that you shouldn’t confide any personal information to them.
What are they lying about?
The degree of dishonesty plays a major role in whether it’s worth being mad over or not. Was it a little white lie, or was it completely inexcusable? If it was something like saying they liked your dress and told someone else they hate it, move on. If you feel deeply stressed and betrayed by their actions and fibs, then your emotions are 100 percent justifiable.
Understand their intentions.
Many times, people are two-faced because they believe they are making the situation better than worse, which is called a happy-two-faced person. Many people lie in order to make the situation they’re in look better, but in the end they only make things worse. Others may just have the intention of hurting you for spiteful reasons, and become a two-faced frenemy. Either way, they are in the wrong, not you. Whatever intentions they had, their actions were impermissible and they should know better than that.
When confronting them, make sure you focus on the main problem at hand: them being two-faced. Do not confront them in front of all your friends, because it will just make the situation more tense for everyone included. Talk to them privately, and be assertive. They need to know that they hurt you, and that it was not okay for them to do that. Even if they didn’t mean to betray you, they should be confronted. After confronting them, try to keep everything as water under the bridge instead of holding grudges.