Relationships are always a work in progress and require time and energy for it to work. In a relationship, couples should be able to work together and respect one another’s opinions and values. Communication always plays a major role in a relationship, such as discussing one another’s interests, views and choices without feeling judgment from your partner. However, when the relationship isn’t acting on these points, then there are issues in the relationship that can escalate. What are the signs that your relationship is going through a rough patch?
Arguing occasionally isn’t an issue, but when it comes to a point where you’re not communicating properly and problems are escalating, that is when you should start to worry. According to By Dr. Samantha Rodman, a clinical psychologist with the online therapy site Talkspace, if you can resolve issues and move on from a problem, that is a good sign. However, constant fighting is not healthy. What can be done is couples therapy. Partners can go to counseling to learn how to resolve any problems in a fair and communicative fashion.
An issue that can develop in a relationship are the differences in values. According to Dr. Rodman, it is normal for partners to have different values, as no two people are the same. However, some preferences may be so integral to people’s worldviews it needs to be shared for the relationship to work.
Partners must be able to work on and agree with larger issues such as religion, political leanings, the importance of sex, and whether to get married or have kids. These are factors that affect a person’s life and should be discussed together. This doesn’t mean that you must break up if you don’t agree with some issues. However, you and your partner should be able to openly address these issues without it escalating into an argument.
Lack of trust
Without trust, the relationship struggles to move forward. You should give your partner the benefit of the doubt until they prove themselves untrustworthy by their own actions, not because of your own assumptions.
Disrespecting a partner
If you or your partner is disrespectful and insults one another, then that is a significant sign that your relationship is in trouble. You always want to have mutual respect for one another and complement one another to build each other up.
When you stop doing the things you love
If you stop doing the things you used to love to do when you were single because of fear of your partner’s complaints or jealousy, then you two might have an unresolved control issue. Partners in a relationship should both be able to do what they love and spend time away from one another without building anger, jealousy or resentment.