When our daily concerns infiltrate our precious headspace, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed and very much alone. However, we must bear in mind that other women are constantly dealing with similar struggles, and take comfort in knowing that we are “All in This Together” (cue High School Musical number).
With that being said, here are 10 things many women think about on a daily basis.
Am I being assertive or rude?
At a time during which women are finally starting to take more decision-making positions in all industries, our ability to be assertive to bring a project to fruition should be celebrated. However, taking on the “boss” role (in any area of life) can sometimes feel a little bit uncomfortable. It can be hard to tell if our words are ebbing on the hurtful side or not.
If this is something you’re worried about, think about exactly what needs to get done and how. Write out a list, cutting out any fluff. Deliver this message to whoever needs to hear it.
Am I going to have enough time for my own appointments?
Making time for self-care when we are busy working, tending to our family’s needs, and maybe even pursuing our side hustle can seem laughable. However, as I’m sure we’ve all heard before, it can be impossible to give yourself to others when you are running on empty.
Taking care of yourself is not only important for your own sanity, but also for that of others around you who depend on you.
Should I yell at the guy who catcalled me on the street?
It’s upsetting to think that this abhorrent street harassment is still happening, and that we still have to worry about how we come across to others when we react to it. Will we look crazy if yell back? Will we look weak if we don’t?
According to self defense expert Gabrielle Rubin, you shouldn’t do either. Instead, give the catcaller a half-smile as if to say “I feel so bad for and disgusted by you,” and then pull out your phone to fake call a friend.
Is someone following me?
One of the scariest fears that all women have, particularly when walking home alone at night is that someone is following them — or worse, going to hurt them.
Unfortunately, this is the reality of our world right now. It’s important to make yourself feel as safe as possible when outside alone, whether that’s by carrying pepper spray with you or making a phone call while you walk.
How do I react to this compliment?
Taking compliments can feel uncomfortable. We’ve all been taught that it’s important to be modest, and accepting someone’s praise can feel like publicly declaring our own greatness.
However, not accepting someone’s kind words about us can feel to them like a bit of a rejection. Not to mention, there is nothing wrong with accepting a pat on the back when it is well deserved.
Do I have to go to this event?
When we become accustomed to helping others and tending to their needs more than we do our own, we can often feel obligated to attend every birthday party, dinner, award ceremony, and casual hangout in the world.
However, we should bear in mind that overextending ourselves will only wear us down, and ultimately make us not only less available for others, but also for ourselves. It’s ok to skip that party once in a while, even if you said you would make it.
Don’t be flaky and make a habit of canceling last minute, but also don’t be afraid to say “no” every now and then when you know you need a break.