The sensual bond between two people usually starts strong and gradually fades. It’s human nature. But when you first notice that your partner is not as interested in physical contact, it’s natural to wonder why. Here are some reasons, other than the natural aging of a relationship, that might be making him pull away.
Reduced libido
Medical speak for “he doesn’t want sex as much.” Loss of sex drive in a man is natural over time, though men can still have some sex drive into their 60s and 70s. It can be affected by medications and poor emotional health, so it may be worth it to have a conversation about status of health or see a doctor. Some health conditions that can reduce libido include:
- Depression
- Medical treatments for depression
- Sleep apnea (which can lower testosterone)
- Low testosterone
- Some medications (ask a doctor)
Loss of interest (in sex and other things) due to depression
When someone you love loses interest in sex, dining out, playing their favorite sport, etc., it could indicate that they are struggling with depression. Many people assume that depression must have a root cause – like something someone did or a moral failing. Although it can indeed be triggered by some trauma or bad event, it can also appear unexpectedly in anyone. It usually creates a cascade of problems including less interest in sex among other things, he may be depressed – which can be treated.
He’s stressed
We’ve told you what stress can do to you previously. Suffice it to say that stress impacts interest in sex. If he’s going through a loss in the family, insecurity at work or a big fight with you, his body and mind are too preoccupied to be interested in sex. Women are this way too, so this is no surprise.
He’s bored
If there is nothing going on in his life that you know about that could be causing stress, it may make you wonder if there is something he’s not telling you that may be causing it. Start a conversation. If there aren’t any possible medical causes, and it’s neither depression or stress, maybe you’re reaching that point in your relationship where things have gotten dull in bed. It could be his lack of imagination or yours, or it could be time.
He’s getting it somewhere else
Maybe you’ve suspected it. The sad reality is that it is possible. If you’ve ruled out all the reasonable explanations then you have to start looking out for his behavior. Cheaters tend to follow predictable patterns, but the greatest tool may be your instinct.
I hope you see that a lack of interest in sex is not always bad news. Usually it’s something that a good conversation can get to the bottom of.
