It has been said that in order for a relationship to function, compromises have to be made by both partners. Although this is true, sometimes your partner asks you to compromise too much for them. If your partner is trying to control your life, that can be a sign of an abusive relationship. Being in a relationship shouldn’t mean changing your whole lifestyle for one person. Here are a few things that cross the line for women and shouldn’t be compromised in a relationship.
You should never risk your career for a relationship. You’ve already worked so hard for the job you have, do you really want to risk it all and start at the bottom again because your partner finds it an annoyance? They should be accepting and supportive of the career path you’re on, regardless if they agree with it or not. If your partner is trying to come between you and your job, set some boundaries for them. If they still persist on intervening in your job, it might be time to let them go and find someone who will respect your career choices.
Her friends and family
Although friends and family put a lot of pressure on relationships, your partner shouldn’t be in the way of seeing your loved ones. They should at least be trying to get along with the people that you’re closest to. Besides, your friends and relatives were most likely there for you before your relationship started, so don’t leave them on the back-burner just for one person. If your partner doesn’t get along with the people closest to you, talk to them about it and find the root of the problem. And remember, relationships can come to an end, but great friends and family are around forever.
It’s extremely irresponsible to put your partner over your priorities. You made a dedication to something and you must follow through with it. If you missed a deadline at work because you were spending time with your partner instead of focusing on your work, you’re falling into a bad habit that could cost you your career. Talk to your partner and let them know that, although you care about them, you can’t make them your top priority all the time.
Her social life
Don’t stay in every night because your partner would rather stay at home than go out. It’s easy to fall into the trap of ordering pizza and watching a movie in the comfort of your own home, but try to also make time to be around people other than your partner. TED Talk speaker Daylle Deanna Schwartz recommends that in order to have a functioning relationship, you should also have a functioning social life. If you’re around each other too much, you’ll start to get sick of each other and the relationship will crumble. So stop cancelling plans and try going out without your partner.
Your partner should accept you for both your assets and your flaws. Everyone has flaws, even your partner, and they need to understand that you’re not changing yourself only to please them. Being with someone that constantly criticizes certain parts of you can take a toll on your self esteem and cause resentment that can ruin your relationship. If your partner is constantly being critical of your body or your personality, they’re probably not as great for you as you thought.