Of the many factors that contribute to any healthy, working relationship, trust is one of them. If any of the following factors appear with someone you know, then that person most likely can’t be trusted:
1. Disrespect. We treat others the way we would like to be treated, right? Wrong. Although some of us might follow this code of ethics, there are some others who unfortunately don’t. If someone treats you in a way you do not want to be treated, belittles, talks down to or is constantly insulting you, then this person has little to no respect for you. Respect is earned and shared. If it shows , just walk away, and do not waste your trust on this person.
2. Liar Liar, Pants on Fire. What is the one thing we all deserve? Honesty. If someone is lying to you and you witness them doing it not only to you but to others, do not ignore this. One small lie can lead to even bigger ones, and you will soon be the fly caught up in a spider’s web. If you are experiencing this with someone, then give that person the boot, because they cannot be trusted.
3. Secrets. Are you dealing with someone who is so secretive, their shadiness leaves you unsure? Run for the hills! Someone who hides something from you, or in fact hides many things from you can be dangerous because what they bring to the table is most likely a façade. Do not trust someone like this, secrets only make things cloudy.
4. Lack of Communication. Often times we try so hard to get someone to open up, but no matter how hard you try, this person is still a closed book. If someone doesn’t communicate, and won’t open up, then they most likely cannot be trusted.
5. The User. Do you notice that this person only comes around, in fact comes running, when they need a pick me up? But, when you try to initiate something with them or when you need their help, they are not there for you? One word: Untrustworthy. Someone who only uses you at their own disposal does not care for you, and definitely should not be trusted.
6. Overstepping boundaries. Boundaries exist for a reason. We all need our space. Someone who does not respect your time or personal space can be dangerous because they do not give you room to breathe or think, causing an unhealthy relationship.
7. Doesn’t take no for an answer. No means no. If you tell someone “No” and they are still persistent in what they want from you, then this person is dangerous. They will persuade you into doing something that you don’t really want to or until they get what they want.
8. Controlling. Control is a very dangerous sign because control can lead to abuse. Someone who feels the need to be in control will always want the upper hand, leaving you with little to no voice. Do not trust the controlling person, because you will only be their puppet. They care more about being in control, rather than what listening to the concerns of the other person or doing what is right.
9. Inconsistent. If someone’s words are not fluid with their actions, just let them go. By staying, you are only setting yourself up for failure because that someone will never actually mean what they say.
10. Selfish. Someone who only takes and takes without ever giving will only leave you feeling empty. Let that person go, they will only drain you.
