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The Job Doctor on How to Deal with Change

Submitted by Womenworking on Fri, 04/24/2015 - 08:35

Dealing with change can be hard. Luckily The Job Doctor has advice on how to deal with it!

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Dare to Live Fully: Use Charisma to Get Ahead

Submitted by Womenworking on Thu, 04/23/2015 - 11:30

This week, Helene speaks with Dr. Freda Lewis-Hall, chief medical officer at Pfizer, about how to lead with charisma. Freda's supportive parents saw her potential early on, and helped her develop a strong sense of confidence by encouraging her authentic self to shine through.

Here are some of the highlights from the program:

On wisdom from her parents...

Freda: My father's lesson was “Believe in yourself.” He was truly committed to the notion that everyone has a gift, they just need to realize it and live it. My mother was a tremendous believer in truth and giving good feedback. She believed that compassionate honesty, not brutal honesty, was the way to help people grow. 

On being fearless…

Freda: Sometimes people say, "Be fearless." I'm not sure I've ever been fearless, I've been fearful but determined, often. For me, that's what confidence is. It's okay to be fearful, as long as you take a step forward.

On opening up…

Helene: In being authentic, you have the ability to build strong bonds. I used to be afraid of how people would respond to me, but by sharing myself truthfully, they connected with me more. If you can make a difference by being authentic, do it.

On moving through challenges…

Helene: What I've learned in my life is to reach out for support when you’re undergoing big challenges. In looking back, those lessons were some of the greatest gifts I’ve received. 

To hear more from Helene and Freda, click here.

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How To Know When To Move On To A New Job Part 2

Submitted by Womenworking on Thu, 04/23/2015 - 08:40

In the previous blog post, we examined the situation with my client where she had completely surpassed the growth in her current workplace. We looked at why she missed these signs, and then we explored the first 3 tell-tale signs that let you know it’s time to move on to a new job. 

Today, I will explore two additional signs that are good indicators that it’s time to move on to a new job. Here they are.

Sign #4. They don’t share your values.

This is one of the hardest but most crystal clear signs. When your core values—such as integrity, honesty, freedom to share your opinion, balance in work and life, etc—when those come into direct conflict with that of your company, then it’s a sign to leave. 

You will always be able to find an employer that is aligned to your core values.

Sign #5. The passion is gone.

Passion may be a luxury, but if you are a serious career gal, then you need this little ingredient to sustain you on your long journey. So demand it. 

If you feel no passion towards your company, its culture, and its people, if you don't feel a rise out of going into work each day and interacting with your co-workers or partaking in the culture, why are you there? 

Find a place that excites you and one that you can brag to friends and family about. This may seem small but your internal happiness is key to your outside career growth. It’s all connected, and you cannot neglect one and hope to accomplish the other. So always develop your awareness so that you can create a holistic approach to your career and your life.

-Farnoosh Brock, Business and Career Coach, Prolific Living Inc.


How to Know When to Move On to a New Job Part 1

Submitted by Womenworking on Wed, 04/22/2015 - 08:40

I had a client—let's call her Jane—who was driven, ambitious and beyond over-qualified (MBA, years of experience, multiple certifications, excellent track record) and she worked for a small company where her management seemed to adore her. 

One problem: Jane was not getting promoted to that higher level role she’d been eyeing. 

Jane had already been promoted a few times, but she was going for that final big push to sit near the top. So we worked together, explored her strengths, her gaps, and the quality and depth of her relationships with her management and executive leadership team. She scored high on all fronts. 

On the surface, there were no apparent areas that she needed to "work" on—she needed to keep doing what she was doing, but if they were going to fill that leadership spot, there was no sign that it was going to her yet again. 

Does any of this sound familiar? You don't need to be shooting for the top leadership seat at your company's board to relate to Jane. What she needed was to realize that she had reached the growth limitations at her own environment and it was time to move on to a new opportunity. 

Within several weeks, Jane started interviewing at several prospective companies for a leadership position that suited her strengths. With the negotiation coaching that we worked on, she was able to land her ideal position with a very handsome bump in compensation. 

In retrospect, we found some tell-tale signs for Jane that showed her it was indeed time to move on. 

Here are the first 3 of the 5 signs to look for if your career plans don't jive well with your company:

Sign #1: Your management doesn’t want to see you grow.

You know the signs. You are qualified for a role and for no good reason your higher-ups are creating excuses to obstruct your growth and development. If you feel this is happening consistently and communication with management has not given you any specific actions to take to solve it, it’s time to move on.

Sign #2: Your company doesn’t invest in you.

You see that in order to have career growth—classes, workshops, or conferences are needed. You’re also getting a clear sign that your company is not willing to invest in you. 

What's worse, they may not even be willing to support you as you invest in yourself. These are clear signs that you need to find a new job.

Sign #3: You have outgrown your role.

If you are no longer learning, you've outgrown your role. And if you don't enjoy any daily or weekly challenges in your position, then you need to find one that provides that for you. But what if you can't? 

When you cannot imagine yourself getting challenged in other areas of the company (and remember, challenges help us grow in our careers), then you need to shift your gaze to a new direction.

In the next blog post, I’ll share with you the other two tell-tale signs that say it's time to make a career change.

-Farnoosh Brock, Business and Career Coach, Prolific Living Inc.


How to Become a Social Media Maven

Submitted by Womenworking on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 08:26

Whether you're advertising for a business or honing your personal brand, a strong social media presence is crucial. However, standing out can be a challenge. We spoke to experts Stephanie Abrams and Courtney Spritzer, founders of the digital marketing and PR agency SocialFly. They gave us their best tips on standing out from the crowd.

Know your audience. Rather than going for a broad reach, figure out who your audience is and what type of material they respond to. Stephanie says, “If you know who you're trying to reach and what they actually like, then you can craft content around your exact target market.” 

Keep an eye on your competitors. Find brands you’re similar to, and check out what’s working for them and what's not. It’s especially important in business to keep tabs on what's going on in your industry. “On Instagram, I'm following a lot of fashion brands. It's good for us to stay on top of what the major players are doing,” says Courtney.

Pay attention to the climate. Be sensitive to what's going on in the world. Courtney warns, “We've seen this many times with big companies that plan content ahead of time. God forbid a tragedy strikes and you have a tweet scheduled about the sale you're having.” Make sure your posts are appropriate and relevant.

Use social media for good. Sometimes it seems like everyone's personal lives are now public. Choose carefully what to share and what to keep to yourself.  “Everyone has the ability to share their opinion at any time, no matter what it is or if it's appropriate. Now everyone can be a reporter,” says Stephanie. Don't misuse social media: respect everyone's privacy, including your own! 

Consistency is key.  Once you develop the voice of your brand, use it everywhere. Courtney’s advice is: “Think about who your audience is and how you talk to them. Decide what your voice and tone should be on social media. Be as consistent as possible, because over time that becomes memorable.”  Always remember what your long term goals are, and what impact you want to have. Your online presence should reflect that with every post. 

Interview conducted by Alana Fallis (WomenWorking.com Intern)


Is Working Hard Really the Only Answer?

Submitted by Womenworking on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 08:29

Examine your beliefs. Revisit your assumptions. That's my heart-felt advice for you.

When I was in your shoes years ago, one of my many false assumptions was this: Work hard and you'll get promoted. Work hard and you'll get rewarded. Work hard and you'll move up. Work hard and everything will fall into place.

Well, it just so turns out that working hard is not the sole solution to advancing in the corporate world, and when I found this out in my late 20s (through bitter experience, because nobody spells it out for you, how inconvenient is that?) I was horrified. 

I felt betrayed and angry that all of my hard work did not translate to getting a raise and a promotion, and that made me curious to find out what did. What then is the secret to getting ahead and sitting on leadership teams, hob-nobbing with real decision makers, and having actual influence at corporate? What must I do, I wondered, to turn my career 'ship' around? 

Listen, hard work is a desirable trait of good employees, I'm not denying that. But it's more like a virtue to exercise strategically, rather than a default mode you exhibit at all times. I am saying that it's not all about hard work. In fact, working too hard can sabotage your career success. 

Equally important is having a clear understanding of your position and your level of influence. Then you need to identify the key people who can help you increase your level of influence and start a relationship with them. Next you need to secure yourself a mentor. And never skip the office party—here's why.

These are just some of the things you need to be doing as you build yourself and your reputation at the workplace because here's the bitter truth:

Your manager knows that making the hardest working person develop more influence is a LOT HARDER than making the influential person work hard when need be. They almost always choose the latter, and you want to increase your chances of getting recognized. 

So as you build your awareness on why working hard is not the sole solution to corporate success, check out the 8 reasons you're not getting ahead at work here.

What do you think? Do you see working hard as the ultimate gateway to your success or have you learned otherwise from your experience at work? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

-Farnoosh Brock, Business and Career Coach, Prolific Living Inc.


Gabby Bernstein on Finding Peace in a Chaotic World

Submitted by Helene on Fri, 04/17/2015 - 08:53

I sat down for a Q+A with Gabby Bernstein, best-selling author, speaker, and spiritual teacher. Gabby gave me her tips on staying calm and focused under stress. But first, I asked her how she came to spirituality.

GABBY: I knew I detoured in my teens and 20’s, and veered away from the spiritual practices I was taught as a child. I tried to find my own way looking for answers outside myself. I was an entrepreneur, running my own PR business from 21-25, and I became addicted to the NYC night life. By the time I was 25, I was severely into drugs and alcohol. I had a food and work addiction too. Those addictions opened me up to reach for something deeper, to reconnect with my spiritual self.  

HELENE: In the middle of a stressful day, how do you find your anchor—avoid being taken out by the small stuff? 

GABBY: While we can't avoid certain experiences, we can experience them differently. We live in a chaotic world and can’t hide from that. So the real question is, what are we going to do about it? A big part of my work is giving people the tools to be mindful and aware of how they’re affected by the world around them, and how they can anchor back into a more peaceful energy. Being at peace at all times is impossible—it’s about how quickly we come back to that anchor.

HELENE: How would you describe mindfulness?

GABBY: Being aware of how your thoughts and energy are affecting your life. With this awareness we can choose to see things differently—choose a meditation practice to realign our energy. 

HELENE: For people who have never meditated and may be frightened by it, what practice would you recommend to start?

GABBY: “Peace Is in Your Pulse” is beautiful Kundalini meditation where you put your pointer finger and middle finger on your pulse. Once you find your pulse, recite the mantra “Sat Nam.” It means “truth identified.” Recite this mantra for 3 minutes as you feel your pulse come and go. You will reorganize your energy and get back to your anchor. Have an intention to set yourself free.


Real Myths That Hold Women Back - Part 2

Submitted by Womenworking on Thu, 04/16/2015 - 08:40

Welcome back! Yesterday we shared part one of this blog post. Read it here. Let’s dive into the other two myths that hold women back in corporate workplaces.

Myth 2 - Women do not know how to negotiate well on salary and promotion.

You can learn anything, including the best negotiation tactics on salary and promotion, but if you go in believing that you are poor at the task, you will perform poorly. So while you need to believe that you can be good at it, you do have to spend time learning the skill and practicing it. That is the only gap between you and a guy who is a master negotiator. Easy! It has nothing to do with you being a woman, just learning the necessary steps. 

So look up some resources, get yourself a coach, or book a session with me to learn how to negotiate the best outcome for your next salary or promotion at the job. 

Myth 3 - Women are afraid of getting a no, so they don't ask.

Everyone is afraid of getting a no. It is human nature. We seek approval and love and praise, and shy away from criticism. Unfortunately, we associate a “no” with criticism. They are unrelated. A no is simply a delayed yes. A no means not now, not yet, or not yes based on how you positioned your offer. A no is simply an invitation to ask again, to find a better way to getting to yes, and to challenge you to think differently about your situation. 

“No” is wonderful! Remember, a no is not a rejection, but rather a response to your request. My challenge for you is to go after a no tomorrow. Make friends with it, be less uncomfortable, and you will be ahead of all your peers—men and women—in a great area of life. 

Now that you know the myths, cheer up, because opportunities abound for those who believe. 

Even when we learn that something is not true, our habits force us in that direction when things go wrong, so expect to have a period of re-training your mind. For instance, next time your girlfriend tells you how she got a “no” to a raise she asked for and says, “Well, it’s typical! Women always get a no,” pause before you jump into agreement and instead, ask: “Is it really true? Let’s assume that’s not the case. What else could it be?” And challenge your old beliefs. 

You can only advance in your job and create new fresh opportunities for yourself when you believe you can make it happen. That is your homework for now.

-Farnoosh Brock, Business and Career Coach, Prolific Living Inc.


3 Real Myths That Hold Women Back - Part 1

Submitted by Womenworking on Wed, 04/15/2015 - 08:35

If you are familiar with the corporate workplace, you have probably heard about the salary gap between men and women. You learn that few women hold leadership positions at the top in companies, and you hear how women should do better to "close the gap" etc, etc. 

You may be determined to be the first woman to break the glass ceiling and show them how it's done. You tell yourself that you're different, you're ambitious, you're a hard worker, you're a go-getter—until you face the inevitable career disappointments when it comes to your own salary negotiation and promotion. 

Is the system really unfair? Before you feel any more self-pity, let's examine the evidence against the "unfairness." Do you not know at least one woman whom you admire who is holding a top leadership position, a successful role in her company, and also living a happy healthy life? 

We all know at least one such women. So the real question is, what did they do right that you and other women may not be doing right? 

Personal story: When I was denied my obvious promotion after meeting every single criteria, I thought I had done something wrong along the way. I was going to find out what it was and fix it, but then a girlfriend in the same department planted a terrible seed in my mind, "It's because you are a woman, Farnoosh!" A part of me believed her. 

For the next two years, I let that false assumption lead my actions, until I learned the truth: You hold yourself back permanently if you choose to believe the unfairness against your sex. So for starters, do not believe it.

Put your bitterness aside, and let's focus on clearing your mind of the top three myths that you have been led to believe about women not advancing in corporate. 

Myth 1 - Women are genetically poor at math, science and technical fields.

I have a client who is a brilliant MIT graduate and was one of the top notch aeronautics engineers at Lockheed Martin, until she started her own successful business. I also have two cousins with PhDs in electrical engineering, and I hold 2 degrees in that same field. This is just a small sample of women that I know in my circle. If you look for proof, you will find that there are incredibly successful women in any field, even if the numbers are low. That means, women are just as good in any field that they choose to be, but fewer choose to go into math and science and technical fields. It has nothing to do with ability. Abolish that thought!

I will leave you here with the first myth and share the next two myths in our next blog post. 

Click here to read Part 2.

-Farnoosh Brock, Business and Career Coach, Prolific Living Inc.


New Opportunities for Paying-It-Forward

Submitted by Womenworking on Tue, 04/14/2015 - 09:16

Caroline Modarressy-Tehrani speaks with confidence, conviction, and a desire to make a difference, as one of HuffPost Live’s anchors, but she wasn’t always this way. When growing up in London’s East End, she was the target of bullying because she physically developed faster, was mixed race (her father was Iranian and her mother was a light-haired Catholic Brit), and she was bookish. Her mother was a big supporter, and guided her with these wise words, “Everything that you put out into the universe comes back 3 times” whether negative or positive.

Thanks to the help of her seventh year (sixth grade) teacher, Ms. Mason, Caroline began to develop her own voice. The encouragement of this strong woman gave her the confidence to excel above her age level. She continued to surpass expectations and was encouraged to apply to Oxford, where she attended. 

Landing a job as a journalist after graduation, she wasn’t feeling fulfilled. “I felt like the kind of journalism I was doing was not satisfying. So I took a mid-career Masters at Columbia University.” She was ultimately hired at HuffPost Live as an associate producer and she credits her opportunities to Arianna, Allison Girvin, and Cindy Vanegas, her current executive producer who continues to encourage her. “I went up to Allison and said I want to do more—I want to be on camera. She said ok. It’s not only having confidence, you also need to have a confident female leader, who is willing to give you an opportunity.” 

Paying-it-forward is important to Caroline, who acts as a mentor to associate producers below her. She also has many hopes for young women around the globe, here are her top 10. 

10 things you wish for young girls around the world 

  1. That young girls everywhere can learn in an environment free from violence.
  2. Equal pay! 
  3. Freedom over their own bodies.
  4. Unimpeded access to education—girls should never be barred from learning.
  5. An end to forced marriage.
  6. That we put a stop to female genital mutilation.
  7. More female role models! 
  8. An end to persecution of young LGBT girls.
  9. More women in power to highlight girls' issues.
  10. That we continue to listen to girls’ stories and hear their voices!

In the very near future Caroline is getting married. We wish her the very best. 

See what Caroline's up to by following her Twitter account, and catch her on HuffPost Live


How To Be an Entrepreneur While Keeping Your Day Job

Submitted by Womenworking on Mon, 04/13/2015 - 08:45

See if you can relate to this: You are a successful accomplished career woman, with loads of accolades and praise, yet a part of wants to start your own business and pursue your own ideas. 

You feel torn, because you can't—and perhaps don’t even want to—quit your high-paying stable job with its future opportunities, but you can't ignore your heart's desire to do something on the side either.

What should you do? 

If you feel the calling to chart your own course, the best advice I can give you from personal experience and coaching is this: Find a way to do both. Start your business as a side-hustle alongside your career. Build it up slowly while you still keep your main profession. 

This way, you can stay in your job and find a way to feed your soul. 

That’s what I did, even though my soul-feeding project turned into a full-time business (that led me to hire the hubby), yours can go either way. The point is, you must answer the calling of your soul when it comes knocking.

Most women don't recognize that the transition from employee to entrepreneur doesn’t happen overnight. It can sometimes take months or years. But while you can’t build it overnight, you can build a little every day. And if you keep at it long enough, you’ll look back one day and you see a full-fledged thriving business staring back at you.

That's the big picture, but let me break down this super quick process which will help you approach the business dream as a career-minded woman in the workforce.

  • Do not think about quitting your job. Think about starting your business.
  • Figure out your life purpose first with this test.
  • Identify your strengths. Find your passions, talents, and skills. 
  • Decide on the business idea. One that will lead you to happiness, meaningful impact, and an income stream.
  • Teach yourself how to build a business while working your day job.
  • Try and fail. That's right. Try and fail at your first business idea.
  • Start over again. Do this until you succeed and you shall!
  • Identify role models. Find a group of similar women in your exact shoes and join them.
  • Hold yourself accountable. Your group will help as you build your business.
  • Seek extra help. If you need help taking the above steps, watch my free 5-video series course here to get started.

My biggest hope for you is this: If you feel the urge to start a business, do it now, not later. There is never going to be a perfect time to start your business. There is also no pressure to quit your job if you start your business at the first inkling rather than ignoring the calling and waiting until you are fed up with your career. 

Over time, the right path for you—employment or entrepreneurship—will become clear, but one thing is certain: If you have so much as an itch to start something of your own, do it. Do it now and let time grow your seeds into full grown trees with your daily efforts. 

So tell me, have you ever dreamt of starting your own business?

-Farnoosh Brock, Business and Career Coach, Prolific Living Inc.


How To Dress Like an Executive Fashionista

Submitted by Womenworking on Fri, 04/10/2015 - 08:49

Your appearance plays a big factor in the workplace. It can weigh heavily in whether you’re promoted, demoted, or fired. It’s a silent window showing others how you see, treat, respect or disrespect yourself personally and professionally. With all that on the line how can you stay on top of trends and maintain a respectable reputation at the office? 

You must ALWAYS look like an authority at what you do, but must still keep on top of what’s new and trending. That philosophy holds true in fashion and any business interested in growing and staying on top. 

As a woman who teeters in and out of the corporate world as a trend expert, I have to maintain a professional appearance while keeping true to my style ID. Trend inspired contemporary looks (even in the most traditional work environments) can send a message to your employers, colleagues, and staff that you are a Forward Thinker. It’s vital to show respect for your industry or craft (you don’t want to see your dentist with an extremely low cut blouse or your child’s teacher with a high slit skirt that draws unfavorable and inappropriate attention, correct?). It’s about finding the balance between today’s styles and what is historically acceptable in your industry. This delicate balance will portray you as a Modern Day Professional with your finger on the pulse of tomorrow. How do you do that, you ask? It’s quite simple. 

Keeping your style statement respectable to your industry, age, physique, and silhouette is first and key. Then incorporating new trends in color, style and patterns for the season will make you the person to watch every morning at the office. You’ll soon find others following your lead by wearing a little more color or wearing a pencil skirt one day, instead of that same tired black pantsuit your fellow colleagues may wear like a uniform. You want to be a catalyst for positive change in your workplace, starting with your look, then your performance at work. Working hard to maintain a position of authority beyond just your work expertise, but in your style statement too, is viewed well by higher ups and executives. Soon they’ll want you to come play with them in the sandbox, trust me. Your knack for blazing trails and influencing your peers to follow you (looking and performing better) will add to your list of great attributes and help open up opportunities for you in the future. 

Here’s 2 Easy Spring Trends that an Executive Fashionista can use right now: 

Classic Trench Coat/ Sleeveless Duster:  Try throwing it over your shoulders for a more dramatic effect or try a sleeveless duster which is a perfect indoor and outdoor executive look. Both styles work well with an everyday office suiting/dress, a casual Friday look of a crisp top with a blazer, or you can wear the duster as your blazer with a thin belt at your waist, dark denim jeans, and heels.  

The Kimono Belt: A perfect example of how to take a trend and simplify it for the workplace. The pajama top, soft pajama pant, and kimono robe are popular trends; none of which are appropriate for most corporate environments. However, bringing in this one style element over a dress or with pants is a simple way to bring this trend to work with executive level sophistication and style.

Pamela Watson is an experienced stylist who currently works as the trend expert for Builders of Style, where she prepares A-list clients for red carpet events, music videos, concerts and award shows. Have a question for Pamela? Either ask below or email administrator [at] womenworking [dot] com


Dare to Live Fully: How to Stop Overworking

Submitted by Womenworking on Thu, 04/09/2015 - 11:53

In this special episode, Helene’s guest is singer/songwriter Alanis Morissette. Between juggling family and her career as a world-famous musician, Alanis is no stranger to the stress of a heavy workload. Today, she shares insights on how important it is to put self-care first.

Check out some of the highlights of the program here:

On battling work addiction…

Alanis: Work addiction is often called the respectable addiction.  It’s the only addiction in the world that gets praised. So imagine trying to kick an addiction that you get promoted for. 

On real courage…

Alanis: It wasn’t until I started applying the courage I apply to my songwriting to my actual relationships, that things started healing. 

On finding yourself…

Helene: The process of finding out who I was inside was terrifying. Who I am is a result of moving through fear and allowing myself to have feelings—not repressing them. It’s by owning, sharing, and moving through them, that I became powerful.

To hear more of Helene and Alanis’ candid conversation, click HERE.

This program and future shows will also be available on iTunes after broadcast. Don't forget to give us a 5 star rating!


A Quick Self-Care Routine to Help you Succeed

Submitted by Womenworking on Thu, 04/09/2015 - 08:35

Sometimes it’s easier to use work as an excuse to skip that workout, or to use stress as an excuse to eat that donut and overdose on the wine and appetizers, but neglecting your health now guarantees bad news down the line. 

The only surprise factor is what kind of bad news. You are not invincible and your career is not worth sacrificing your health for. In fact, when climbing the corporate ladder as a successful confident woman, you must take great care of yourself in order to keep climbing and to have more doors open for you. 

The senior leadership team finds nothing attractive in an over-worked, over-stressed employee. In fact, you send the opposite message: 

When you neglect your health, you’re saying you are not able to take responsibility for yourself and that you can hardly manage everything on your plate currently. This makes it seem as though you can’t possibly manage more at a higher level, so it’s in their best interest not to promote you.

Don’t expect your management to verbalize this for you. They expect you to understand that a professional can handle her personal life and career obligations with poise and balance. Plus, it’s your health we are talking about. You want to take excellent care of it. Without it, you have no career. 

Even as a self-proclaimed health nut, I did not notice how badly my own health and relationship with my husband had declined, especially with coast-to-coast travel for quite a few months. I was cranky, exhausted, stressed out, and as a result, I showed up that way at work meetings. 

Imagine the irony: I was working myself to the bone, leaving my husband, traveling to California, giving up my personal life, and getting so stressed out that I was sabotaging my own career as a result. 

It took courage and commitment to turn things around, and I found that short bursts of health habits were a lot easier, less demanding but still highly effective. You are more likely to stick to short bursts in the long-term which gives you those sweet benefits which you can’t get for doing something just once or twice. 

Here are my 5 best quick health routines that each take no more than 10 minutes daily. You don’t have to do all of them every day. Pick and choose. Give yourself a hug for doing at least one a day.

Do a 10 Minute Breathing and Cardio Routine: I have a free video (https://www.udemy.com/10minutes/?couponCode=10minutes) you can watch and do with me as part of program I created for these 10 minute routines, which saved me. These combine breathing, stretching and mini cardio.

Sit Still to Meditate, Re-Group and Re-Center: You can do guided meditation or just sit in an upright position on your office floor and listen to soft music or your breathing.

Make a Glass of Green Juice or Smoothie: You can either buy a cold-pressed fresh green juice or make your own in less than 10 minutes. Replace one meal with it to help your body cleanse and detox regularly.

Say Positive Affirmations to Clear Negative Thoughts: Download my free 12-minute audio track ( http://www.prolificliving.com/positive-affirmations-landing/) and listen to it first thing in the morning. Or repeat your own favorite affirmations slowly 3-5 times. 

Write with Free Flow of Consciousness: You may call this one a journal entry. I call it self-therapy. You can do it online at 750words.com, in a Google doc, or in a personal journal. Writing without an agenda is pure therapy, and it can help you tap into your subconscious and solve problems that have had you stuck for a while. Write 750 words daily with abandon.

-Farnoosh Brock, Business and Career Coach, Prolific Living Inc.


What to Do After Your Boss Says No to a Raise

Submitted by Womenworking on Wed, 04/08/2015 - 08:43

So you've done it. You've built up the courage to have a meeting with your boss to have the dreaded but necessary conversation: You asked for a raise. 

And your boss’s response is a no. A flat, quick and simple no.

Maybe he's not blunt or mean about the no. He may even be kind and listen to you intently before saying something along the lines of: 

"I agree, you are extremely hard-working and one of the best on my team. I don't know what I would do without you, and I agree, you're overdue for a raise but as you know, [insert here any excuses for not doling out raises.]" 

At this point, your confidence has dipped so low you practically have to look away before speaking another word. You feel defeated. 

The conversation started out so well, with all the great praise and promise of recognition for your hard work. But then he closed the door—no wait, he slammed it in your face—and he blamed someone else, HR, his own boss, budget cuts, the raise freeze, etc.  All outside of his own power so you simply could not argue or even carry on the conversation. 

What do you do next when your boss has specifically said that you are ready and overdue for a raise, but he cannot deliver on it?

Stay confident. Don’t show your disappointment (just yet).

Do let the refusal crush your self-esteem. Call me crazy but some women—including a younger me—suffer from this!

Ask your boss this question: "That's great to know. I was not aware of this [insert excuse used] was in effect (or applied in my situation). Can we discuss next steps on how we can work together to make my raise happen?"

Wait. Don’t be tempted to fill the silence with chatter. 

Your boss may resort to another excuse but most likely he will give you an answer. Maybe he has to go talk to his boss—or wait until the raise freeze has been lifted or check with HR. Now your job is to come to agreement on when you can check on the situation again. 

Don't give up. Don’t leave his office until you have agreed on a time and date to meet. Then follow up with your boss at the agreed-upon date, unless he has an update for you sooner.

This simple plan sends a strong message to your boss that you are a professional, that you understand this is all about business and that all business is negotiation. 

You may have several more conversations with your boss before your raise comes through. You may even realize that this company is not the place for your future, but you will have clarity from your boss sooner or later. 

Have faith! Words have power and the right words will get you closer to your career dreams.

-Farnoosh Brock, Business and Career Coach, Prolific Living Inc.


Make a Great Impression

Submitted by Womenworking on Tue, 04/07/2015 - 12:35

Caren was new in her managerial role. She came to her new company from a creative and casual environment. Her reputation in her previous company was excellent. She came into the first meeting with her colleagues with her usual good humor, effervescent personality, and bursting with insights and new ideas. This didn’t go over well. Why? Her new setting was in a more conservative, low-key environment, where people dressed formally. Although Caren was hired for her creativity, ideas, and high energy – something the company needed – she turned off most everyone in the room. What happened? 

Caren didn’t pay attention to the “difference/credibility balance.”  What does this mean? A person can be as different from the norms present in the group culture in direct relationship to how much they are perceived as credible. Caren didn’t consider how she might earn credibility with key stakeholders before she could be influential and add value using her unique gifts and strengths. The question Caren didn’t ask was: “How do I dress and speak to earn credibility with this group?” 

What do you do to earn credibility when you are new to a group or organization? Here are three tips to build trust.

How can I dress, stand, and look to be aligned with my purpose and goal?

First impressions count! We make them in just fractions of a second through our dress, style, posture, energy, speaking voice, and gestures. 

Dress for what’s normal in the group. Be authentic to your style, but ensure you do not permit your clothing to be a distraction from the strengths and value you bring. It’s not only your dress, but also your posture, handshake and facial expressions that create your impression. Credibility can rest on your standing tall and straight, walking with grace and energy, a firm handshake and a warm smile. 

Are my voice and tone working to support my first impression?

The tone of your voice also plays a significant role in making an impression regarding trustworthiness, aggressiveness, and warmth. If you are a manager or leader, make sure the tenor of your voice uses the lower/deeper tones in your range. This generates trustworthiness as well as confidence. Be careful not to end your sentences on a higher note. Your statements can be mistaken as questions or uncertainty.

Have I prepared some questions to ask others, so I can get them talking before I do?

Letting the other person or people have the floor before you do gives you plenty of information to tailor your style. You get important information you need to establish your agenda and approach, and they also can feel better understood. Have a few questions ready that align with your purpose and goals. Whenever you are the one asking the questions, this establishes you as the leader. The most effective way to do this is to ask questions from authentic curiosity, giving time and silence for 5 seconds before saying something yourself.

-Andrea Zintz, President, Strategic Leadership Resources


Living with Intent

Submitted by Helene on Tue, 04/07/2015 - 07:38

Yesterday, I sat down with Mallika Chopra, daughter of Deepak Chopra, and talked about life, happiness, and living with purpose and intent.

We filmed the interview at Erik Thomsen's beautiful gallery of Japanese art. Stay tune for more information about where and when it will air. 

Our conversation was so meaningful. We talked about framing intentions (the deep desires you want to manifest), very different from goals.  Intentions are connected to your soul path.

Letting go of bad habits, energy burners like guilt and perfection, all were topics discussed candidly. It was a pleaure being with another soul sister.

Mallika and her father, Deepak

Mallika has a new book out Living with Intent: My Somewhat Messy Journey to Purpose, Peace, and Joy.


3 Things to Know to Get Them to Listen

Submitted by Womenworking on Mon, 04/06/2015 - 09:11

I wish there was a Communication 101 course in every college program to teach the basics of workplace communication. I strongly believe if you know how to communicate, you can get anything you want in life, and yes, that includes at work. 

So how do you communicate what you want? Let's start by setting a foundation on which you can build your powerful communication techniques. Here are three things you must know before you speak:

Act as a leader. Whatever your role may be, if you see yourself as a leader, you can easily change the way you think and approach communication. Ask yourself: If I were a leader at my company, would I ask for what I want? For example, a raise? If the answer is yes, then consider how you would phrase it. How can you help your company achieve its goals, so they reward you? This shift in perspective is the first step to setting the right foundation.

Deliver results. We get so busy doing small tasks that may or may not have an impact, but take up too much time and energy. This is sometimes necessary, but often can be avoided in exchange for more impactful work. Scan your workday and identify activities that generate the highest impact and biggest results. This requires that you understand what "impact" means at your company and then always speak about your results. Never mention what you "do," but rather what you deliver.

Become a key player. Now that you are seeing yourself as a leader in your company and focusing on your impact, the next step is making your company's goals your goals. Quickly learn what matters to your manager and become a key instrument in delivering it. This will make you indispensable in the eyes of your company, and you will be seen as a true professional and leader. 

If you can build these three foundations and exercise them consistently, you will see a positive shift. You will get noticed, recognized, and you will get what you want by helping your company get what it wants.

-Farnoosh Brock, Business and Career Coach, Prolific Living Inc.


How to Find your Soul Mate

Submitted by Womenworking on Fri, 04/03/2015 - 15:50

Spring is here—the season of renewal and rebirth, which means it’s time to dust off winter's gloom and start anew! Is there a special someone missing from your life? We spoke to relationship expert Arielle Ford, who gave us a step-by-step guide to finding and attracting your soul mate. 

Forgive the past. Start from a clean slate. Reflect on any past relationship mistakes, then let them go. This includes forgiving people who have hurt you. If your energy is spent being angry, you risk dragging the past into the future. This is your opportunity to start again.

Make a wish list. Focus on what really matters to you and what your heart needs to be happy. Instead think about the qualities you want your perfect partner to have. Arielle says, “Ask yourself—will this contribute to my long term happiness? It's more important that someone is kind and generous and loves animals, rather than how tall they are.”

Have a ritual. Arielle advises that after the list is written, give it away. The idea is that you're literally putting it out into the world. You can burn the list and scatter the ashes, or fold it up into a balloon to be released. “The whole point is to somehow say to the universe, I know and trust that the one I've asked for is already mine.” 

Make space. Now that you've asked for a new person in your life, trust that they're on the way and make space for them. Clear out a shelf in your bedroom, or pick one side of the bed to sleep on. These symbolic gestures show that you have room for the new. Most importantly, clear your home of memories with your ex! Put anything that reminds you of them in a box in the garage; don't let it take space in your life.

Be visible. Now that you've gotten yourself ready... go out there and meet people! This is the best and most important part. “Stop hiding on your couch,” Arielle says. “You need to be more visible. Remember there are plenty of good men out there. Never say, I’m too old, I'm too fat, they're all taken, etc. None of those statements are true.” This is the fun part, it’s time to meet new people and practice flirting. Learn how to be playful again! 

As our expert says, “The good news is: This process is easy, simple and fun! It just requires that you put a little energy, intention, and attention on your love life.”

We can get behind that! 

To get more of Arielle’s great advice, visit www.soulmatesecret.com

 


Enjoy your Holiday Weekend

Submitted by Womenworking on Fri, 04/03/2015 - 14:33

Enjoy your holiday weekend!

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