The image of strong women used to be the ‘ice queen’ living an empty or lonely life. Or the woman who needed to have it all together by being perfect. But in our new paradigm, a strong woman is someone who is capable of accomplishing big things AND get what she wants. We now think of a strong woman as the person who has been resilient through difficult circumstances.
Strong women don’t shout from the rooftops how they got to be that way. They have a subtle inner approach that makes them strong. So what do women do to be strong, even if they don’t talk about it?
1. They Stay in their Flow
They know that their energy is their greatest resource so they are intentional and keep focused. They are not easily distracted.
They take a step back to introspect when they may react in ways they will regret later on. They are self-aware and value alone time to reflect on their patterns. They learn from their mistakes rather than punishing themselves into a shame cycle.
2. They Maximize what they Can Control
They always focus on what they CAN control. They see life happening through them, not to them and they enjoy their ability to impact others.
They know that when they embrace their full capabilities in work, love, and life they are unstoppable.
3. They Have an Abundance Mindset
They understand there’s more than enough success to go around and want to see other people succeed. Strong women are generous without expecting people to acknowledge them. They don’t keep notes on what they’ve done for others to get what they want later on.
4. They Define Themselves
Strong women own their sense of self. They carry the feeling of being ok inside of themselves and don’t need to get it from people outside of them.
They understand that THEY can determine what they want to believe about themselves. That other people’s opinions about themselves are “none of their business”.
They feel deserving and if a work or personal relationship doesn’t reflect their inner sense of self, they know they can change their situation.
5. They Set Boundaries
Strong women are strong because they set their own boundaries.
They intuitively feel when people are “energy vampires.” They assess who in her life is willing to do their part to grow and invest in relationships that are mutually beneficial.
6. They Prioritize Self-Care
They prioritize self-care by knowing what keeps good energy going and find balance in going to the gym, meditating, and writing in their journal.
They make this time sacred. They don’t feel guilty about it because they trust that everything will get done and that other people will honor their need to take care of themselves.
They hold onto these routines even when, or especially when times are tough.
7. They Create their Tribe
They proactively create a group of like-minded women. They act for one another even when they are lacking the courage to act for themselves. They know the connection is their lifeline.
8. They Know Themselves
Strong women know themselves very well. They know what they want for the most part and don’t apologize for it.
When they are confused, they ask for help and hire a coach if needed as a thought partner.
9. They are Motivated from Within
A strong woman doesn’t need to “find her motivation”, her motivation is a part of her.
She doesn’t wait to be in the mood to take action, she takes action to get in the mood. She doesn’t need other people to motivate her because her energies are directed toward moving her life and the life of others forward.
She’s not stopped by momentary anxiety or obstacles. She knows the difference between not taking action because of the need for clarity vs. not taking action due to a lack of belief in herself.
And if other people doubt her, it just motivates her even more to succeed!
10. They Understand Things Happen FOR Them Not TO Them
They view problems as occurring in the overall arc of life. Strong Women trust things will work out, usually drawing their strength from a connection to something greater than themselves. They see problems as an invitation to learn and grow.