We all feel insecure about some things. Men aren’t special in that regard. Generally speaking, my wife has a different set of insecurities than I do, and that’s not unusual because insecurities are very personal. But this is an article about men and written with the traditional male psyche in mind. I’m going to guess that you’ll find you share some of these same insecurities.
My parents had steady jobs. In the 1970s and 80s people got incentives to take jobs, full time jobs, and a lot of the time you held them for life. But its 2017 now, and I can’t remember a time when the average worker was more disposable.
You can dispel this concern somewhat by having a backup plan. Keep your eye open for new opportunities. When life tries to pull the rug out from under you, say “HA! I was already standing on the hardwood floor.”
Wait, what? If my wife is successful I feel insecure about it? That doesn’t sound right. And it’s not right. However, it is a thing. Men are driven to fill the roles that are imposed upon them, and men are socially programmed to be the winners in the household. This ‘olde timey’ notion is gradually dying, but it’s not dead yet. You just keep running ahead ladies – we’ll catch up.
The Greek God bod
Women are not the only ones held to nearly impossible physical standards. Men are expected to take their shirts off when they play Frisbee in the park and be in good shape. Hey, I’m in shape – “round” is a shape. Some days you feel like Kevin Costner, some days you feel like Kevin Smith, and it’s that insecurity that keeps guys going back to the gym.
There are plenty of things that we all feel insecure about. These are just a few. But if you find yourself feeling “less-than”, go do something you’re good at, or focus on a part of yourself you feel good about.
Some male insecurities that deserve an honorable mention:
- Thinning hair
- Being on the right career path
- The future of mankind in general