We all know the horrible statistic–half of the marriages in this country end in divorce. So what is the secret of those relationships that last? One of them could be that successful couples create their own personal boundaries; they have their quality time together, but they are not locked at the hip. There are certain things each partner will not do for the sake of the relationship. What are the things never to compromise on?
We all have those things that we know are wrong and just go against our inner core that guides us in making decisions. No matter how much you love a person, if what they are proposing doesn’t feel right, stick to your guns. If the other person is displeased, it won’t last forever, but if you do something that goes against your values, you will regret it for a long time. Partners need to respect each other’s differences as well as appreciate their similarities.
We all go through busy periods where we have too much to do and not enough time to do it in. If you notice that your loved one is pulling back and not making the time to be with you, something has to give. You might notice that they are not really listening to what you have to say or they seem to be taking you and the relationship for granted. In a lasting relationship, both partners feel valued, and if you no longer do, it’s time to have a serious talk.
Your need to be apart at times
This notion that someone will “complete you” is great for the movies, but doesn’t work that well in real life. You complete you. You are whole and complete, just the way you are. All relationships need a certain amount of space; partners need time away from each other to be with friends or be alone. Granted, individuals may need a different amount of time apart, and that should be respected, but no space can mean the death of a relationship.