Men are strange creatures sometimes – especially to women. We play different, we fight different, and some of the things we do that hurt or offend you, we don’t even know we’re doing them. How is that possible? Of course this is a generalization, and everyone is different, but here’s what I’ve found…
Talking too little or too infrequently
Maybe you’re talking via text, email, snap, phone or face to face and suddenly…. Why did he get so quiet? Things were going so well.
Men like to talk too, but we are also comfortable saying nothing. Not to play on a stereotype but, I don’t know many women who take it well when men are quiet. Silence can feel like a judgement or an emotion, and sometimes it is, but men are very comfortable with silence.
We were having a nice chat then I didn’t get back to you for three days – I’m sorry about that. I didn’t mean anything by it.
Blowing off an occasion
You can be together blissfully for 100 years but if we miss one birthday or anniversary, we spend the rest of our lives in the dog house.
Traditionally women seem to be the keepers of the family clock, the family calendar, while men are busy doing whatever it is we do. Ask me when anyone’s birthday is and I’ll turn to my wife for a hint immediately. It doesn’t mean we don’t care about the person, it does however mean we don’t prioritize ritual occasions – though we should, because they matter.
He’s “friendly” with other women
Truth: we all (men and women) like to know that we seem attractive. Not just physically, but emotionally and intellectually. If a woman is very friendly with a man, her mate is not going to like it. When a man is very friendly with a woman, his mate isn’t going to like it. Law of the jungle folks.
The difference is, while we might see flirting as something purely physical, women may see it as potentially something deeper.
So gents, that is reason number 75 why you shouldn’t flirt.
The dance between men and women is a weird one. Men and women are different and generally speaking, it is those differences that attract us to one another. The cursed part is that it is those same differences that can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
What is the cure for that? Communication.