Timing is everything when it comes to … well, a lot of different areas in your life. But especially for love. We often hear about women missing out on the “one that got away” for this very reason. Whether it’s because you were already involved with someone else, were too young at the time to settle down or had too much on your plate to focus on commitment, these unfortunate situations are all too familiar. Here are some uncomfortable lessons I’ve learned from them as a result.
Nothing good will come out of a life filled with regret
Yes, it may be tough to pull yourself away from the reality of your current situation. You may be wondering and wrestling “what if’s” in your mind every time you see him in passing or at a mutual friend’s get together. Or, you may be completely out of contact with him and all that you have now is a distant memory. But you can’t change the past.
Maybe it’s a lie you’re convincing yourself
Was it the right person at the wrong time, or the wrong person at the right time? Sometimes it’s easier for you to use the “bad timing” excuse than to admit they didn’t love you the way you did. Make sure this isn’t one of those times.
If he is truly right for you, life will find a way to bring you back together
I’m a firm believer in the universe’s ways and the magic of fate. If you were meant to cross paths with him in another few years, another lifetime or never again, then so be it. But if you can’t bear to let him slip away, make it happen. If you want to set your hopes in the future, hold onto that. Hopefully this time, you’ll be a better version of yourself who is better capable of loving him in a now better headspace.
What you wanted before will change
No matter who you had once envisioned being with, your interests will inevitably change. As we evolve and mature, so do our “types.” Ten years or so ago, I would’ve never imagined being with the type of man that I’m with now. Life can be unpredictable, but you’ll know when the right person comes along. And the “one that got away” will be that much more insignificant as a result.