What do you do when you feeling yourself holding on and you know you should let go? Whether it be a relationship that has gone sour or a job you have outgrown, how do you gather your strength and take the steps to move on?
You will not die from discomfort.
Change is uncomfortable, but you will survive it. Staying in the same place, and the “security” we think is attached to it, is a lie. At any moment in time, what you think is a “safety net” can disappear. So stepping out of your comfort zone and trying something new is the way to go. At least you will be growing, whether things work out or not.
New things are scary but they are also exciting.
Reaching out in a new way can be terrifying, but underneath that terror is probably exhilaration. Think of the possibilities that might happen. Isn’t it worth the risk to test the waters? Don’t you want to thrive, feel excited about life? Look for a new opportunity and take it.
Yes, some people may leave you, so what?
Yes, some people may like the “old you.” You fit nicely together, you were used to the routine. But many of us pay a price for behavior that is not authentic. Staying in a relationship or a job you’ve outgrown can make you very angry—or if you have problems expressing your anger, depressed. Depression can be anger turned inward. Have the courage to let go of people, places, and things that no longer serve you.
Acknowledge your courage.
All too often we don’t give ourselves enough credit. Most of us are doing “inner work,” and looking at our end of the street, and that takes courage. We are taking responsibility for lives and owning our mistakes, as well as our accomplishments. It’s important to give ourselves the credit we deserve. When we are kinder to ourselves, it is easier to move forward in our lives.