You can’t get him out of your mind and it’s hurting you
Even though you may be trying your best to move on, you seem to find yourself constantly thinking about him. You don’t want to let go, so should you try to make things work? Letting go of someone you rested your hopes on is painful. You created a special bond together, so reminiscing is only natural. However, beware; you don’t want all that thinking to turn into obsession. It won’t serve you well to stay up all night, going back and forth, wondering if leaving was the right thing to do. At this stage, it’s normal to find every reason to want to go back to him. But you want to try your best to avoid these thoughts. They could lead to psychological distress.
You’re confusing love for something else
Love is subjective, so you won’t find all the answers to your questions in some sort of guidebook. However, one thing to watch out for is when your idea of the relationship becomes distorted. For example, you’re convinced that it’s right because you haven’t experienced sex the way you have with him. Although sex is important in a healthy relationship, it, alone, won’t sustain one. You deserve to build a fully satisfying relationship (in all aspects) and if he doesn’t agree, you may want to consider letting him go.
It’s better to be alone than unhappy with him
Being single —especially after you’ve just gotten out of a long relationship —can be intimidating. Many people don’t realize it because it is hard to recognize this fear. You may be scared to break up with him because you two share so much history; you’ve dedicated so much of your time developing the bond. Don’t try to convince yourself that staying in a bad relationship is better than being single.
You’ve voiced your concerns, but he still won’t make an effort to change
You’ve tried your best to talk to him about legitimate issues, but he just doesn’t seem to listen. You don’t want to change him, but relationships thrive when you can communicate things with each other that may need development. However, when you’re sharing your feelings with your partner, and they refuse to listen, they may not be taking the relationship as seriously as you are.
You’re only holding onto the good memories
Sometimes it’s tempting to hold onto the positive things in a relationship rather than realize how much of it isn’t working. For example, in abusive relationships, some victims stay with their abusers because they only focus on the good things about their partners. Remember to consider the entirety of the relationship before making your final decision to let him go.
The points in this article are the opinions of the writer for the most part.