Couples that are #RelationshipGoals seem like they follow the same standards for healthy relationships. What you don’t always see are the private moments where couples take the time to figure out what’s best for them.
While the following so-called “rules” may work for some relationships, others are perfectly happy even when they break them. When it comes to love, there shouldn’t be any rules, anyway.
Never go to bed angry
Fighting late at night can be frustrating, but shouting at each other until 3 am won’t solve anything, either. By forcing an apology just to go to bed, you run the risk of passive aggression the next morning because the problem isn’t really solved.
Taking some time to calm down and figure out the real issue can be much more helpful. As long as you have time to resolve it the next morning, getting a good night’s sleep can sometimes be more productive.
Never keep secrets
Not all secrets are malicious, and sharing some of them can even be harmful. Your partner doesn’t necessarily need to know that you’ve noticed he’s put on a little weight or you think his friends are weird. Plus, as long as you’ve grown and felt guilty over mistakes in the past, your partner doesn’t need to hear about every time you’ve messed up with your exes. If you’ve moved on, there’s no need to bring it up again.
More sex = happier relationship
While sex is a crucial part of any healthy relationship, it isn’t the only way to feel intimate with someone. Plus, there are a number of other factors besides the relationship that can affect sex life, like stress, physical health problems, or mental illness. More sex doesn’t necessarily mean more love, and there isn’t a specific number of times per month that happy couples are intimate.
Always arrive at events together
When someone in a relationship arrives at an event alone, people tend to ask, “Where’s your girlfriend/wife?” If there’s no excuse that satisfies the people who ask that question, they often assume the couple is having a rough patch. That’s not always the case. Sometimes, choosing to stay home and have some “me” time can be healthier than dragging along someone who is tired or doesn’t feel comfortable in that setting.
Love means never having to say you’re sorry
Nope, we’re not going to endorse this one. No one is perfect, and the more you can recognize your partner’s feelings, the healthier your relationship will be.
Sources:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/nation-wimps/201407/the-new-rules-relationships
http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/sexual-health/sex-and-relationships/
https://www.bustle.com/p/breaking-these-8-relationship-rules-can-make-your-bond-stronger-with-your-partner-11772659
