Everyone feels stressed at some point, and learning the cause is not always easy. If you feel like someone close to you might be the reason, there are ways to know, and there are ways to help diminish it.
Am I enough?
There are moments when you might not feel connected. First, realize that if you are trying your best, you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. If you feel that the other person may be the root of why you feel down, have a talk, in private, and try to declutter the situation.
Separation Anxiety
Every time you are apart, you feel anxious. That person might be the center of your heart, but it’s okay that they aren’t the center of your life. What you can do? Organize your thoughts. When you aren’t together, focus on yourself and what’s right in front of you. (https://www.bustle.com/articles/161103-9-signs-your-relationship-is-making-your-anxiety-worse).
You’re unsure about them
Sometimes it’s smooth sailing and other times you find yourself over-analyzing things. You’re just not sure about where the relationship is heading. What now? Try to let things flow. As time goes by things may become clearer. At some point, you’ll be sure about whether or not you want things to keep going or come to an end. Remember, patience is a virtue.
You get angry easily
When you’re stressed out about something, you’re like a ticking time bomb. It’s easy to blow up on someone else when they’re the source of your stress, but try not to. When they say or do something that riles your nerves, take a deep breath. Analyze the situation and try to think of an answer or action that you won’t regret later. As Dr. Heitler states, “Beware, as excessive anger is one of the leading causes of divorce.” (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201208/anger-is-stop-sign).
Lots of arguments
When a misunderstanding arises, it can be easy to blow things out of proportion, only making the problem worse. Before you know it, one argument leads to another and so on. Instead of adding fuel to the fire, listen to what the other person is trying to say. If they are the ones misunderstanding you, try not to get worked up–it will only frustrate them more. Let them know what your point is and where you’re coming from, and be open to hearing their side. (http://www.professional-counselling.com/stress_relationship_problems.html).
