Communication is key. If it seems like there’s a cloud looming over your relationship, maybe the problem is right in front of you…but you just haven’t been listening. Here’s what she wants you to know…
She wants more time with you
We are all busy. And for a lot of people, when we can’t make time for someone, it is easier to avoid confrontation than to reach out and explain why we aren’t available. But blocking out your partner when she wants more time with you will only create problems. If she keeps trying to make plans and you constantly shoot her down, eventually she will forget why you’re valuable in her life.
She wants you to take more of an interest
If your conversation falls flat at the dinner table, maybe you haven’t made enough of an effort towards understanding her interests. Relationships aren’t just built on what we have in common; in fact, our differences are often the most compelling aspects of any relationship. They help open our eyes to our partner’s perspective and experiences, and richen our relationships overall.
She wants you to show her more appreciation
No one wants to feel unloved. It can sometimes be hard to communicate that she wants more affection or attention without coming across as needy. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t seek your appreciation for the things she does for you. Take note of all the times she compliments or thanks you for something you’ve done, and match her with your own words of affirmation.
She wants to you know that things have to change
This is never an easy topic to bring up, but when she is trying to tell you she is unhappy in your relationship, you have to listen. Just because she wants things to change doesn’t always mean she wants out of the relationship. And chances are you’re not totally happy either. Letting her have the microphone for this difficult conversation will show her how much you care.