When it comes to finding the love that our souls really crave, we all want to know what the secret ingredient is. Before letting go of all hope that your kind of love doesn’t exist, find out how you might be preventing yourself from finding it.
You don’t take care of yourself
One of the biggest mistakes that you can ever make is showing your significant others that you are not taking care of yourself. By doing this you end up putting pressure on your partner because they will feel the need to take care of you, which might scare them away. Self-care is also attractive because this shows your partner that you love yourself. Think for a moment “If I don’t give myself any tender love and care, who will?”
You hold on to resentment
Use your past experiences as lessons that you can carry into a new relationship. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you made, and forgive previous partners for their part in the breakup. Once you let go of old hurts, you can begin to feel ready for a new relationship.
You put too much focus on them
When you find someone you’re interested in, it can be hard to take your mind off of them, and your focus might shift, making everything is about them. Don’t forget that you’re a part of the equation too. When you place all of your attention on the other person, they can become less sensitive to what you want.
You’re stuck in the past
We’ve all experienced heartbreak, but that doesn’t mean everyone is going to break your heart. Don’t project your prior grievances onto your partner – or potential partner. Detach yourself from all your past heartaches so you can give yourself and your new love interest the chance you both deserve.
You’re not opening up
We all want to guard our hearts and keep it forever safe, but by not opening up to your partner, you might actually discourage them from continuing the relationship. It’s normal to fear love, especially since we don’t know if the other person will return this love. However, if you don’t put yourself out there, you might be missing out on something amazing.