It’s no myth that there are certain things that a woman can do that will bypass a man’s rational brain and talk right to his inner caveman. As members of a polite and progressive society, we are raised (or should be raised) to treat each other neutrally. But we are also mammals, and as such are hardwired to find mates for reproduction. Somewhere in between the social and the animal you’ll find most people. Let’s say, for the purposes of this article, you’re aiming more for the animal.
The hair flip
There’s a big difference between the “oh darn, my hair is in my soup” hair flip, and the “oh, hello there” hair flip. Maybe it’s how the neck becomes exposed and vulnerable. Maybe it’s how the whooshing hair creates a shower of her scent – whatever makes it work, it works! And no, you don’t have to have long hair to get away with it.
Biting of the lip
The other day I was eating a taco enthusiastically and I bit my lip and inner cheek – that’s not the kind of spaz move I’m talking about, no. When a girl bites half of her bottom lip, it brings attention to those lips in perhaps the only socially acceptable way. Now that he’s seen them, he thinks about them. But it also suggests that the woman (it doesn’t work when men do it) is trying to control some urge. This is technique number 3,615 of how women can own any conversation.
I don’t know why, but when a man thinks he’s got you figured out and you surprise him, you get his undivided attention. Are you prim and proper? Show up for game day with a football jersey. Are you the smartest person in the room? Show your vulnerable side. Are you quiet and demure? Stand up and don’t back down. As this happens, all the electrical circuits in his brain start to smoke, and suddenly he has to see you as if for the first time again. That complexity is alluring.
Wearing his shirt
“Hey, give me back my shirt,” said no man ever. When you put on his shirt, especially if it’s oversized, then you are cloaking yourself in his property and his scent. Again, his rational mind doesn’t know why this is so cool, but the animal man thinks the girl wearing his shirt is his and, even more importantly, wants to be his.
A simple touch
I knew that my wife was going to be my wife when, on a crowded New York City train, she reached for and took my hand. I remember a woman sitting nearby who saw it and smiled. She smiled because she just watched a man get caught by a woman. That simple touch of the hand, or a taking hold of an arm or even something as simple as brushing something off of his shoulder creates a connection that goes waaaaay past words.
So those are five things, but I have no doubt that there is a whole arsenal of things women can instinctively do to own a man’s attention. Care to share them below?
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