Successful relationships are all about give and take. And they require a lot of sacrifice and compromise from both parties involved. It may be easy to notice what you’re lacking because we know our own needs. It’s harder, however, to know what your partner is thinking. Here are five things that men wish their partners understood, but would never admit on their own.
They like it when you’re affectionate
Romantic comedies and sitcoms leave us expecting the man to do all of the wooing in a relationship – the fine-dining, the flowers, the cutesy dates – when men are just as receptive to romantic gestures. A little thought goes a long way and men love it when women are assertive – whether that is planning a thoughtful date or taking charge in bed. It’s nice when you’re not always waiting for them to make the first move.
They love compliments
Men can feel just as insecure about their looks as women – who are often the ones portrayed as benefiting from verbal reassurance. While compliments aren’t exactly necessary to either men or women, they are nice to receive no matter who you are. Whether it’s about something superficial like new clothes or a haircut, or something more intellectual like how you love their knowledge of Amazonian reptiles, men love (and need) to be appreciated. It’s also helpful for you to think about and vocalize positive things you don’t always express but love about your partner.
They want to be the hero sometimes
It’s not that he doesn’t think you’re absolutely capable, but guys love it when they feel like they’re providing or that they can offer solutions to your problems. I personally don’t understand the need to fix things … but I promise it’s a real thing for a lot (if not all) of the guys I’ve encountered.
They need support too
A lot of men grow up being taught that they can’t be vulnerable or express needs without being considered less than. This is wrong for a number of reasons and the truth is that men need our support just as much. Just because society typically portrays men to be macho providers who never need a helping hand, men appreciate when you are their shoulder to lean on. They need your support and they love knowing that you’re on their side.
They value their alone time
As much as your partner loves you, he still needs his personal time. Whether he chooses to spend that time by himself, on a hobby or with his guy friends, it’s crucial – and even healthy for your relationship – to take some time to be an individual. Guys aren’t the only ones who need this – studies show that taking time to do things you are passionate about on your own actually enriches your romantic relationships.