Whether your relationship has hit a rough spot or you’re just dealing with a straight up cold partner, stress is inevitable. You have to put up with their distance and lack of communication. At this point you don’t know what to do and you feel like your head might explode. If you’re up for the challenge, then here are five ways to deal with your detached lover.
Decode them
Maybe the reason for their distance is that they’re going through a tough time. This could be what’s been keeping them from opening up to you. Ask them what’s going on and if there is any way you can help.
Watch your actions
It’s easy to become angry when your partner only seems to be slipping away, but you don’t want to do something that you’ll regret later on. Avoid yelling, criticism, accusations, and jumping to conclusions. These things might make it hard for them to trust you, and they might end up pulling away for good. Instead, tell them directly and calmly how you feel.
Give them space
You don’t want to suffocate them. Don’t bombard them with questions, but don’t baby them either. If they are going through a difficult situation, they deserve some personal space to figure things out. They’ll open up to you when they’re ready, and that is when you can swoop in and try to save the day.
Plan something nice
Whether it’s a fancy date or just spending the night it in, do something that will remind your partner that you still care about them. Maybe your partner really needs something like this, so don’t be afraid to be affectionate and make them feel comfortable and safe enough to share what’s on their mind.
Leave
A lot of people are scared of leaving a relationship because they think it’s giving up. If you’ve been trying with your partner and they haven’t budged, they probably don’t want to. If you’ve tried your best and they still don’t respect your efforts, there’s no shame in turning the other cheek and walking away. If you know that you tried your hardest, then you’ll realize how strong you are and that leaving might be the best thing to do.
