It can be difficult to form a strong, loving bond with a partner, and sometimes it takes a few tries before you find the person for you. When you find your partner, it will take time and effort to make the relationship work. Here are a few tips to help you at different stages:
When you’re looking for a partner
Don’t settle for less than what you really want.
Being lonely and wanting a relationship shouldn’t cause you to be with someone that you aren’t excited about. There are many signs that show you’re settling into a relationship, such as that you’re sacrificing too much to be with that person. Make a list of the most important qualities you’re looking for in a partner and hold out for them. You’ll be happier in the long run.
Look for someone who acknowledges your strengths.
Your partner should appreciate your best qualities (and you should do the same for them). You both have unique traits that probably complement each other, and will help you build a stronger foundation for your relationship.
Find a partner who doesn’t expect perfection.
A loving partner helps you build from your vulnerabilities into a stronger person. They accept for you who you are and they have compassion for any imperfections. You also need to understand that your partner will have flaws and you need to accept the total person.
When you’ve found your partner
Give each other space.
You and your partner are separate beings, and should not be spending every waking moment together. Clinging too much to your partner will cause problems in the relationship (people cling onto each other for a variety of reasons, such as fear of abandonment). By giving each other space and being independent, you and your partner will learn to appreciate each other’s company more.
Realize that it’s hard work, but it will be it.
Relationships never stay in the honeymoon phase. Couples argue and irritate each other at times, and that’s perfectly normal. instead Although you both may drive each other crazy at times, you learn to accept the total package.