Libidoh no! You haven’t had sex in nine months and you aren’t even bothered by it. Could you be doing something to damage your libido? Read on to find out.
Not catching enough Z’s
If you are hitting the hay at such ungodly hours of the night that Tuesday seems to blend seamlessly into Wednesday, and Wednesday into Thursday and . . . so on, then your cortisol levels, and therefore your libido, might be suffering.
According to registered dietician Hannah Meier, these wacky hormones can negatively affect a woman’s stress response and lead to a slow-down of reproductive activity. As your body attempts to stay awake, your sex drive can become kind of a second priority.
Consuming too much sodium
Eating that bag of Lay’s can really satisfy you in the moment, but potentially undercut some . . . shall we say, arguably more gratifying pleasures later on.
Eating too much sodium can increase your blood pressure, thereby reducing blood flow throughout your body in regions such as your pelvic area. Replace those salty snacks with a round of kale chips or kimchi bites.
Not loving yourself enough
Self-consciousness in the bedroom can certainly have a negative impact on your willingness to have sex. It is understandable that unsureness and dissatisfaction with your appearance and/or performance would make you resistant to putting yourself into these kinds of vulnerable situations in the future
Understand that you do not have to have sex with anyone you do not want to or with whom you feel uncomfortable. Being with someone who you are attracted to and who you know is attracted to you will allow you to be more relaxed and more willing to sort of “let go” in the process.
Although you are probably concerned about pleasing your partner, do not be afraid to kick back and make this a bit of a selfish endeavor. Allowing yourself to enjoy sex will not only reap physical benefits for you, but will also cause your partner to become more aroused, which will be a pleasantly self-fulfilling cycle.
Not lovin’ yourself enough
In a similar vein, not experimenting enough with and/or not taking the time to learn your body will likely cause two things: self-consciousness due to performance anxiety (see above), and just a physiologically lower libido.
Taking just a little bit of “me time” out of your busy week to figure out what it is that you like can have a dramatic impact on your desire to have sex.
Partying too hard
Excessive alcohol consumption for extended periods of time can negatively affect both your libido and your fertility.
Drinking socially and in moderation is fine, but make sure to carefully regulate this habit.