Whether it’s because of work, motherhood, relationships or etc., most women understand what it’s like to face multiple stressors on a day-to-day basis. When we’re stressed, we have two options: either we buckle under pressure, or we soldier on and rise above the challenges. Here are seven signs that you – or someone you know – have the ability to bounce back from your setbacks.
She is impeccable for her 50%
We are only stressed when we focus on aspects of the situation we can’t control. A resilient woman sorts out what she CAN control from what she can’t – and she’s on top of the things she can. She takes responsibility for what she contributes to any situation.
She accepts what IS and works to make it better
She accepts things for what they are in the moment and focuses on what she can do to make them better. She is persistent in her efforts to achieve an outcome that is for the good of all. She is resourceful and comes up with ideas that no one else would have thought of if they hadn’t devoted themselves to a solution like she did.
She has perspective
When circumstances are hard, it seems like all you can see around you are problems and hardships. A resilient woman can always see the bigger picture – she knows that life will always have its ups and downs. She learns from the mistakes she made when she was less evolved. She also doesn’t wear her energy down by blaming others or blaming herself. She shows up curious, asks questions and stays focused on the facts.
She has confidence in her abilities
A resilient woman trusts herself and follows her intuition. She has realistic optimism, believing that the situation will work out for her and all involved but knowing that it will require hard work on her part. Her conviction also comes from deep faith. She stays connected to whatever source gives her a sense of purpose. She pours herself into doing for others in moments when she can’t even do for herself.
She has a “Growth Mindset”
Instead of having a ‘Fixed Mindset’ (I know what I know and I can do what I can do), she has a ‘Growth Mindset’ (I can learn what I need; I can grow). She sees the situation in terms of what she can gain from it and she is willing to try new things. She is ready to seek out advice from sources she trusts and who have been through what she is going through.
She allows emotions to move through her
The resilient woman honors her feelings and allows herself to feel them, knowing they are a reflection of her heart and her humanity. Constructive actions soothe her soul, like going for slow walks in nature, punching a boxing bag or dancing it out. She allows herself a good cry when necessary because she knows how to pick herself up and keep going.
She takes care of herself
Though she’s fiercely independent, a lot of people depend on her. Even though her life is busy, she knows she HAS to take care of herself. She finds a few minutes each day to close her eyes and breathe deeply to calm her nervous system. She also regularly refills her energy stores by exercising or finding things to laugh about. This woman knows that balance within herself enables her to have balance in her life. She knows how to ask for the required time and space to sustain herself.
