Codependency can ruin a lot of relationships simply because one person relies on the other way too much. If you feel that you or your partner might be too dependent on the other, then here are a few signs that might help clear the smoke.
Codependents rely on the other for happiness
The number one rule to follow when searching for happiness is to know that you have the ability to give yourself anything that you need. No one else is responsible for your happiness besides you. When one partner depends on the other for happiness, it means they’re not finding it in themselves.
Codependents are addicted to love
In other words, you’re not actually in love. You’re just obsessed with those euphoric feelings from the beginning of the relationship.
Codependents have no self love
One partner focuses on the other way too much and ends up putting himself/herself last, eventually losing track of themselves.
Codependents try to control a situation
Often out of fear, one partner tries to control the outcome of things instead of letting things flow naturally and trusting that things will work out.
Codependents have issues with self esteem
Adapted from the book Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody with Andrea Wells Miller and J.Keith Miller, a codependent person can have difficulty with self esteem. They can have little to no self esteem or can be very arrogant. They can even be both.
Codependents rely on relationships
They’re afraid of letting things go because they fear being abandoned or being alone.
Codependents can’t say “no”
Most of them are people pleasers and often don’t know how to tell people “no,” because they don’t think they have another choice–often putting others before themselves.