Losing a mother is one of the hardest things that humans may experience. It’s been said that the mother-daughter bond is the most deeply rooted bond of any other parent-offspring combination. After losing her, especially at a young age, you will begin to notice changes in the way you look at the world and the way you choose to live in it.
You learn to appreciate family more
If it wasn’t a priority before, your family becomes more important to you because you fear losing a close connection again or losing time together that you can’t get back.
You will feel jealous of others
Seeing other people hanging out with their parents will cause a sting in your heart. Even though it’s a normal day for them, it’s not for you. You’d give anything to even just go on a lunch date with your mom.
You have regrets
You replay memories in your head over and over again and think about different things you could have said to her, other ways you could have helped her or the amount of time you could have spent with her.
You appreciate all the things she did for you
Especially if you lost a mother as a young adult, you will truly start to uncover all the reasons why your mother did what she did. Even though you sometimes fought or rolled your eyes at something she said, you know how much she loved and cared for you.
You hate when people whine about their mothers
Hearing friends complain about their parents makes you boil inside because they clearly don’t understand how lucky they are.
Most people don’t get it
Unfortunately, unless your parents died at ripe old ages, it’s hard to find someone else that can relate to what you are struggling with. People who have not experienced the loss of a mother do not know your grief.
It helps you see the light
Even though losing a mother is one of the hardest things to go through, you do. As a result, you have a better appreciation for life in all its fleeting beauty.
You are stronger than you thought
Even though you still think of your mom every day, you learn to keep moving forward in life because that’s what she would have wanted. You accept the moments you were able to share with her and cherish her always.
*The points in this article are in part the opinion of the author.