While the process of getting over an ex is never the same for everyone, the desired outcome always is. Time heals all wounds, and here are seven steps you can take in order to make your recovery period as short and painless as possible.
Accept how you feel about him
The first step in getting over the ex that you believed was the one is acknowledging that you still love him. Pretending that your feelings don’t exist will only prolong the healing process, and it will also ensure that these emotions will expose themselves at the wrong time.
Allow yourself to wallow
Get that tub of ice cream and eat the whole thing while you watch bad romantic comedies. Sometimes there is truth to a cliché, and this is definitely proof of that. You need to allow your body that emotional release to feel worlds better after.
Weigh the good and the bad
Think back to what worked and what didn’t so that as you contemplate all the horrible things about your ex, you can come to understand what you need in your next relationship. This will leave you feeling renewed and highly productive.
Think about the parts of yourself that you compromised
A surefire way to move on from a relationship is recognizing where you went wrong. Confront the parts of you that changed with your ex so that you can finally realize that relationship was toxic for you.
Cut off contact
Even if this doesn’t last forever, it’s vital for right now. Erase him on all forms of social media so that you’re not tempted to contact him – you can convince yourself that he no longer exists – at least until you’re ready to talk to him without resurrecting old feelings.
Find your own closure
Whether you need to do this face-to-face with your ex or on your own, find the method that works for you to finally feel that you’re over him.
Scope out your other options
Talk to new guys and go on some low-stakes dates. Knowing that there are other guys out there is one of the most effective remedies, especially because it will allow your confidence to grow tremendously at a time in which you’ll be feeling pretty self-conscious.