This year, don’t focus on how much you’re going to work out in the new year or how you promise to get back to your hobbies. Focus on the things in your life that are already happening. If you’re in a relationship or you desire to be in one, ponder all of the elements that you need in order to be happy, and use these nine issues as a reference for things you definitely shouldn’t look past.
Unreliability
It’s simple: you don’t have time for someone who doesn’t make the time. His constant flakiness will either annoy you or stress you out, and honestly if he can’t stick to any of his plans then he has some maturing to do. Make 2018 the year that you find someone who makes the effort to make plans and also keep them.
Emotional abuse
Someone that makes you feel inadequate doesn’t have your best interests at heart, and therefore keeping this person around can only hurt you. You owe it to yourself to break free of this abusive cycle and take your time before getting into a relationship. You want to be sure that the next guy doesn’t hurt you the same way.
Feeling guilty for having a life
Keeping balance in your relationship is vital, and any partner who doesn’t allow you to take time away from him has no place in your heart in 2018. You both need to have separate social lives so that when you come together, you’re able to share things with one another. Next year do not let your relationships limit your potential.
A lack of trust
Trust is the foundation for every relationship, which means that a lack of trust won’t work now or in 2018. You need to both trust what your partner says and feel as though you can confide in him in order survive as a couple. Do yourself a favor and start the new year fresh, without the burden of distrust.
Not being a priority
Again, balance is key, but if you’re not up there with work and family then what are you two doing? As 2017 comes to a close, reassess the distribution of effort in your relationship. If it isn’t equal, it’s time to cool things off in your love life. It’s better to be alone by choice when the ball drops than be alone because your partner made other plans.
Someone who doesn’t listen
This is a classic sign of disrespect and it’s a hint that this relationship has met its deadline. Someone who doesn’t listen is either rude, stubborn, selfish or all of the above. You don’t want to repeat your words any longer – once 2018 hits, it’s time to make some changes.
Arguing for the sake of arguing
Don’t put up with a partner who seems to like arguing with you. Your relationship is not a game, and anyone who treats it as such either needs to get the boot or a serious reality check in 2018. He should know that this kind of behavior will only push you away.
Lying
Although this issue really speaks for itself, it is still immensely important. You’ll never rest easy with a partner who has a tendency to lie, especially when it comes to his fidelity in your relationship. Honesty is a two-way street, and there is never an excuse to defend a significant other who cannot, or will not, tell you the truth.
Neglect
Whether this is emotional or physical, it’s not to be tolerated. You should be getting back the same amount of attention that you give because anything less will leave you feeling unfulfilled. A partner who neglects you is a partner who doesn’t care about you, and what better time to recognize this and move on than the new year?
Sources:
https://www.bustle.com/articles/91486-14-things-you-should-never-tolerate-in-a-relationship-because-you-deserve-someone-who-wants-you
https://thoughtcatalog.com/kirsten-corley/2017/08/15-things-strong-women-dont-tolerate-in-a-relationship/
