There’s such a negative stigma around being “the blunt friend.” Bluntness is sometimes confused with rudeness,and that perception needs to be cleared up. Being blunt isn’t always such a bad thing. It’s time we start changing how society looks at people who have more straight-forward tendencies. Here’s a few ways how being blunt can pay off.
Being blunt with your friends:
Of course you don’t want to hurt your friend’s feelings with being too blunt, but sometimes they need to hear the harsh truth. No one likes their friends to “beat around the bush” when they talk to them about things that are important. As a friend you have a duty to be as honest as possible, no matter how much it will hurt them. If you have something to say to your friend, just let it out in a respectful manner. If they’re really your friend, they will take your comments into consideration instead of blowing them off. Friends trust your honesty, so don’t be afraid to tell them the truth, even if it’s ugly.
Being blunt in a relationship:
Relationships are based off of trust and honesty, so it’s okay to be blunt with your partner. Don’t be scared to tell your partner the truth, they expect you to do so. It’s also important to be blunt when setting relationship rules with your partner. If you don’t like something they’re doing, then say it. Tell them what you expect out of the relationship. By doing so, you are setting the foundation for a stronger partnership. And if they do not respect your bluntness, maybe it’s time to find someone who will.
Being direct with co-workers:
If you have a co-worker who takes advantage of you, then you will need to set boundaries. Let them know what you will and will not do for them, and that you would expect them to do the same for you in return. If you’re in a meeting and a proposal is being presented, and you know something won’t work, don’t just go along with it. Offer helpful ideas that are short and to the point.