Although we might recognize that everyone has different sexual appetites, it can be incredibly frustrating and disheartening to experience a mismatch in desire with our exclusive sexual partners.
It’s important, however, to understand that low libido can usually be attributed to underlying psychological or physical factors, neither of which are anyone’s fault.
With that being said, here are some of the potential causes for his decreased interest in sex.
When the body panics, it increases the production of hormones such as adrenaline and norepinephrine, which prevent you from being able to relax. This ramped up stress can understandably derail any thoughts about sex.
If your partner has a crazy work schedule or is simply having a hectic few days, remind him that he can lean on you for support. If his conditions worsens, ease him into the idea of going to counseling or therapy.
One of the key symptoms doctors look for in the diagnosis of major depressive episodes is a disinterest in sex. Because this condition can often lead to an inability to enjoy things you normally would, it is no surprise that intercourse makes its way onto the list.
If you think that depression is causing your partner’s low libido, encourage him to speak to his doctor about potential treatment options.
Although testosterone is not the only fuel for a man’s libido, decreased levels can in fact reduce the ability to have satisfying sex, particularly if erectile dysfunction arises as a result of this problem.
Luckily, testosterone therapy is available to mitigate this problem.
Excessive use of pornography
If your partner is frequently absorbing pornographic material, he may have difficulty getting aroused “in real life.” Heightened expectations from the generally-exaggerated theatrics of porn, coupled with a satiation (so to speak) with sex after viewing these materials, can lower his libido.
If you think your partner might be addicted to pornography, or just consumes it in excess, express your candid feelings to him about how you think this is impacting your sexual relationship (and perhaps even your relationship outside of sex).
High blood pressure
High blood pressure, particularly over time, can damage the lining of blood vessels, thus limiting blood flow to all areas of the body, including the penis.
For some men, this decreased blood flow can make achieving and maintaining erections difficult. Sometimes, this dysfunction causes anxiety (see above), thus creating a vicious cycle of low libido.
If your partner has high blood pressure, discuss potential medical treatment options and lifestyle changes that he might benefit from.