When you’re turned down for a job or a promotion, it’s easy to take it personally and beat yourself up. But if you want to continue progressing, it’s important to put rejection in perspective.
Keep your plans flexible. In the moment, being turned down can feel like a major disappointment. But you don’t know what will happen in the future. Maybe being passed over for one job will allow you to pursue another one that’s a better fit. Recognize that your path may take some unexpected turns – and be prepared to make the most of them.
Don’t let it damage your self-image. Being rejected might not be just about you. If you don’t get a particular job, it could have more to do with the hiring manager’s personal preferences than your abilities.
Treat yourself like a friend. We all have friends and family members who have been turned down, passed over or even let go. And chances are, you don’t judge them as harshly for it as you do yourself. Give yourself the same compassion you’d give a friend in your situation.
Don’t let frustration get the best of you. When you’re turned down, it can feel like the next opportunity will never come. And that can lead to a sense of despair. It might not be easy – earning a promotion or finding a new job can be hard work. But if you’re feeling powerless, take a look at your resume. Remind yourself of your skills and experience. Then, ask yourself what external factors – which were probably out of your hands – could have contributed to the rejection. This will help you maintain confidence in your ability to land the next position that comes your way.
-Sarah Cooke
