According to MayoClinic, narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is “a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism.”
Here are four ways to call them out on their bluff:
“Don’t change the subject”
When calling out a narcissist on their bull, their gut reaction will be to steer the conversation away from them and flip the guilt onto you instead. Although they may bring up some compelling arguments to suggest that they are the real victim, don’t let them. Remember what you came to say and stand your ground.
When dealing with a narcissist, you may feel pressured to say yes to things you should have said no to. Narcissists are notorious for manipulating others into doing what they want. If you don’t want to do something, shut it down early. And don’t worry about them getting mad at you for refusing – they never cared about your feelings anyway.
“That’s not true”
Masters of manipulating and victimizing themselves, narcissists can make you question your own sense of reality. But your instincts exist for a reason. If you feel uncomfortable or unsure about something they said, question it instead of agreeing with them and moving on. Refuse to pick up slack for their mistakes, and make them confront what they say and do.
“The world doesn’t revolve around you”
Ah yes, the very thing that narcissists believe to be the truest truth in the world. Through emotions like fear and guilt, narcissists tightly wrap you up in their worlds. This comeback might not do anything to change their actual behavior, but it will be an important statement for yourself to remember that your world is just as important.