Cheating. One of the worst things that can happen in a relationship. The hurt, distrust, and feelings of betrayal are unmanageable at times. Sometimes the only question to ask is why? Usually partners who are on the hurt side of the betrayal can try and blame themselves, infidelity makes even the most confident people wonder about their worth.
But even the cheaters themselves can be stuck wondering why they cheat on their significant other. According to Psychology Today, many cheaters can still love their partner and cheat on them even though that seems contradictory in nature. Here are some reasons why cheaters cheat, not that it is an excuse.
Self-exploration, for some individuals, cheating serves as a way to explore parts of themselves that might be repressed or hidden. IN this case it’s not about finding another person but rather escaping their own identity which they may struggle with. Insecurity is another reason why cheaters go astray. Some cheaters struggle with low-self esteem and by engaging in infidelity they attempt to feel desired, wanted and worthy of attention. This helps them get a short time fix of relief that they are desirable.
Lastly some people are enticed by the forbidden nature of cheating and it can be attractive to some people. The excitement they feel in the moment when it comes to ‘breaking the rules’ motivates them to do the taboo.
Cheating is not the end all be all of relationships, but for some it definitely is a warning sign. You deserve to be with someone who loves and cherishes you for who you are and never let anyone make you feel less than worthy.